Currently DH and I live 2.5 hours drive from my PiL. DH's brother and family live 3.5 hours from them. We live about 1 hour away from BiL and family.
Due to the distance, we tend to see PiL about 8 times a year - most of these we go and stay for a weekend (or a couple of days in the holidays), but occasionally they come up here for the day (we've offered for them to stay but they don't like to).
About 3 months ago, PiL decided that they wanted to move nearer to their family, so put their house on the market and announced to DH and BiL that they were planning to move somewhere in the middle of us, so approx 30 minutes from each of us. Reasons for the move were specifically to see more of us and also to be able to help out with the children/babysitting (neither us nor BiL have any family babysitters close at hand).
As the housing market was slow round their way, PiL did nothing about looking for somewhere to move to. Last weekend they got an offer on their house, and by coincidence they had been visiting BiL that weekend and had "fallen in love" with 2 or 3 of the villages near where he lives. They have now decided that they want to move to one of those villages and have set up a lot of viewings round there. They are not now going to consider anywhere else. The places that they are looking at are about 5-10 minutes from BiL and an hour from us.
DH is fuming. He feels like 2nd best son and is really fed up that in practical terms, his parents will be seeing BiL's children all the time, whereas seeing our children probably only slightly more frequently than now. He's also really peed off that BiL will have a wonderful babysitter on tap whereas realistically PiL are not going to be babysitting for us at all at that distance.
MiL's response is that she doesn't want to move somewhere she doesn't like (although in fairness to DH she hasn't actually looked to know that she doesn't like what is half way between us). She also points out that they will still be much closer to us than they are now (true).
Obviously we both realise that PiL can move where they like, but is DH BU to find their current plan deeply unfair (as my own parents massively favour my brother I have long since adopted the approach of things like this not being worth getting upset about and you just need to get on with life)?
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onthebus · 08/05/2011 19:01
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