bit of a gloomy mothers day so far

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i may be being unresonable, went out last nite for a friends b/day was home by 10 both dc still up, fair enough no school today they are 10 n 12.they had a sleepover each friday so were tired.
i got woken this morning by dc 1 alarm she was already up nd downstairs,i was shattered so not happy, come down to back room full of toys dvd wii games all left out from last nite as dh didnt bother toget them to tidy up
so i put it all away
no mothersday card nothing, by now i feel very sad and tell dh i am fed up he laughed which made me cry

they have gone out now to sports session still nothing.i know i houldnt expect anything but it is mothers day

i am ironing now work full time we have zero external childcare and no help around house.dh does help with stuf.i just though on mothers day i might have got some kind of way to show they apreciate me.
aibu

surely at the ages of 10 and 12 they should tidy there own toys.

can't you just go back to bed now they are all out, or just have a chilled out day (perhaps get a take away tonight)

I'd do NOTHING all day and tell them all that they have really disappointed you.
If dh had laughed at me in that situation he'd be lucky to still have his crown jewels in tact :)

Stop being such a martyr. There was no need for you to come down despite being woken up, just roll over and go back to sleep. There was no need for you to tidy all their toys away, they could have done it later. Why didnt you just make yourself a cuppa, go back to bed, read the papers etc. They've gone out so you've got some peace and quiet. Why on earth are you now ironing. Jeez woman, stop being such a wet blanket.

My mothers day is a bit limp too, have been up since early cleaning poo out the carpets...both dc seem to have eaten something dodgy

little ducks... for you, ive been there... not on mothering sunday fortunately.

the trick is, clear a clean path to the sofa../chair/bed (depending which room) then shout loudly to oh that they can't come in yet as there is still poo.... whilst enjoying a coffee/chocolate/wine (delete according to time of day/amount of poo) you clear the rest up afterwards.

That's a shame.

If my DP had laughed at me I would be upset too.

Mines in the Military too and been away for just over 6 months back Thursday. I'd be glad of the time to yourself and stop doing the ironing. Laze about and refuse to do anything for them. Enjoy the time on your own. I'd kill for a day to myself.

Fortunately I don't care one bit about mother's day - I'm not even getting the obligatory present from nursery as the child is off with chicken pox. My husband is in bed with the flu, and I can't even take her to the playground in this lovely weather.

They are 10 and 12, old enough to clean up and do jobs aroud the house.

Sit donw, have a cuppaa and get them to tidy up.

I'm having miserable mother's day too. I've got a rotten chest infection so can't go out for the nice meal that rest of family are going to. In fact, just want to curl up and go to sleep but as lone parent of energetic toddler it's pretty impossible.

aw millie cant your dc go to the mrl with family while you rest.

thanks for the replies

i am off out for a walk in the sun
millie i hope you fell better soon

little ducks (((((((())))))))

also being military wife must be hard i am greatful he's here ( most of the time)

dc do need to be told to tidy up ... sigh i am always bad cop on that front.

I have done enouh today that we are ready for the week ahead so yes i am going to sit back and relax for the rest of it

thanks again

ledkr, I wanted that but my family live a bit of a distance so would be difficult to get him there and back. Don't usually feel sorry for myself but was really looking forward to some adult conversation and DS seeing his little cousins!

I'll join the crap mother's day club. DD is sick and so am I. DS is not, and is a very busy two year old. DH is on a 12 hour shift and won't be home till 8pm. Fed up!

It's a hallmark holiday ffs. Just another day to me.

Leave the mess and treat yourself. If you must

rosie me too.dh at work since 7,baby asleep on me and dont know whether to put her down and have a bath in case she wakes up.

MIL trumps me in the mother stakes so we are at PILs. I have had to go to church with them all too.

Next year we are staying at home on our own.

"It's a hallmark holiday ffs."
Actually, no, that's "Father's Day." Mother's Day is "Mothering Sunday," which is a religious day. Not much help if you're not religious, but since when has that stopped any of us celebrating Christmas?

And I agree with Trifle. Stop doing the bloody ironing and sit down with the papers and a cup of coffee.

well i have just got back from dropping my son at work ,to find a note from DH saying he has gone out ,not to worry if he isnt back till 9pm !

Obviously i am not worried ,but he should be having left alot of expensive camera gear at toddler height , i think i shall just sit back and listen for the sound of it hitting the tiled floor ,instead of moving it all AGAIN !!!!!!

either that or i might donate it to charity

YANBU - that is completely unacceptable. Treat yourself and have a rest but tell them they need to do better next year! It's not about 'things' - though they are nice and I am v pleased with my flowers and little jug - but it's about them bothering to do something.