On Sunday, ds1 (who has just turned 6yo) went out to play with two kids along the road (boy age 6, girl age 7, I think). He was playing approx 12 houses away, in a new-build area, near the top of a cul-de-sac, so he wasn't far and it isn't a busy road. I told him I'd come and get him in half an hour when dinner was ready. So I went to collect him, and as I'm walking along the road, I see that they're all running around on the road. Gulp. I started to run towards them, as a car was coming from the cul-de-sac. They were on the pavement by this point , so I breathed a sigh of relief. Until they stepped onto the other side of the road without even looking. I didn't shout (he hadn't heard me when I shouted a few moments earlier anyway) because I didn't want him to stop in front of the car or whatever. Once the car had safely passed - thankfully the driver had slowed right down and kept his eye on the kids - I shouted to ds to stay on the pavement, then asked him to cross when I saw it was safe.
Now, USUALLY my friend's dd is also out playing, and my friend keeps an eye on them from the window, but on this occasion they weren't at home, but I (wrongly) expected ds to remember the one golden rule of not playing/crossing/going onto the road.
Ds shouted "sorry, mum" the second he saw me, before id even suggested I was annoyed, so he did know, but was clearly not wanting to be the odd one out.
I've now said that I don't want him playing out the front unless an adult is there or watching them. I've suggested they all play in our wee back garden instead, but they often play on bikes, so they don't want to play out the back. Incidentally, ds can't ride a bike so he usually watches the others on their bikes, bless him.
Dh reckons he should still be allowed out the front, as he needs to learn and needs to be trusted. But he didn't see them running onto the road without even looking - I just about passed out when I saw that! This could be happening each time he's out, fgs!
Also, all the kids live further along the street which is why they play along there and not in front of our house (which I'd far prefer).
What would you all do? I don't think ds should never be allowed out again, but don't know what to do. I thought we had drummed it into him about never going on the road, but clearly he's still young and can't be expected to remember this at all times, so when can we let him loose?! I want him outside playing!
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vmcd28 · 30/03/2011 11:45
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