I really want to know - AIBU? (Or is DH?) Because I can't really get a sense of proportion on this. 
I am 36+4 wks pregnant and DH has an important job interview in Scotland on the 15th and 16th Dec. I am due 26th Dec (!) and since the baby is resolutely still breech, there is a good chance we will have to opt for a planned c-section. 
(Have an ECV appt next tuesday and am really hoping it will work.)
So when this interview takes place, I will be between 38 and 39 weeks. That's the optimum time for a planned section. In fact, we did think that if we had to have one, we might as well make it work for us and try for the 15th, 16th or 17th, which fits in well with DH's end of term and therefore maximises the time he can work from home (he's a lecturer). I mean, if you're going to be all godlike and plan the date of your child's birth (which I am not keen on) you may as well do it so it works for you, right? 
Anyway, now we have this interview to contend with. (Which I am already very ambivalent about because we literally just moved house a month ago and I do NOT want to face moving again, so soon, with a toddler and new baby, to the other end of the UK.) I am not at all comfortable with having a section the day after DH is due back from two nights away, for emotional, as well as practical reasons (what if he's delayed or snowed up there?). If we leave it until the start of the next week, we risk buggering up Christmas too (not that this is a major priority and I'd try to be grown-up about it, but DS would definitely be upset if I and the new baby were still in hospital). Would also bugger up Christmas for whichever family members were helping with DS.
The interview means a lot to DH and it was a good ego-boost just to be shortlisted. He is having a miserable time at his current place of work and is trying either to get a better work deal there if he gets a job offer elsewhere, or to accept a job offer elsewhere. Nowhere is hiring at the moment, so it makes this even more of a chance to be grabbed. I'm just terrified I'll go into labour while he's not there (whether or not the baby turns round!), or that we're not going to be able to opt for a c-section when recommended. I know women in labour tend to hang on until everything is fine and safe, but not sure I could hang on that long!
Plus, though I know this is important to DH, I'm finding it very hard not to resent him for throwing this spanner in the works. I mean, he'd support me if I were in that position. So I'm really trying hard to support him, but all I can think is that I want to nest and prepare for our baby, however he comes to us, not fret about DH being stuck in Scotland or have to angst about what to do if he does get the job. (I know, he probably won't. There is quite a long shortlist, apparently.)
Sorry, I've sort of posted about this before, a different aspect. I'm finding it all v hard to get my head around.
AIBU?
to over-think DH going up for interview just before I give birth?
ReshapeWhileDamp · 02/12/2010 17:04
"In fact, we did think that if we had to have one, we might as well make it work for us and try for the 15th, 16th or 17th, which fits in well with DH's end of term and therefore maximises the time he can work from home (he's a lecturer). I mean, if you're going to be all godlike and plan the date of your child's birth (which I am not keen on) you may as well do it so it works for you, right?"
Right.
So now those dates are far from optimum, time rethink them and arrange ELCS for another time.
YABU. Sorry, but if he's miserable in his job and has been shortlisted for a very good job in his field that he'd like to do he should go for it.
I had an ELCS in January at 42+2 (don't even ask), but obviously in your case they won't let you go that late because they want to avoid you going into labour (which apparently is not a problem for me 
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What about the 20th? You'd be 39 weeks and DH would be well back from the interview at that stage.
Duchesse - the answer when I pleaded reasonably requested a CS - was "Baby is undistressed so all is well!" My response "Stuff the baby, mum is very distressed" 
Bad mother!!!
YANBU - to what to have a whinge about it :)
What will you do if he does get the job? Will you go ahead with the move or tell him 'Over my dead body are we moving again!!'
I think if there's not a cat in hell chance of you moving again, then you should tell him that now and he might as well drop the interview.
If you think it will be good for your family (esp DH) and would move (even grudgingly!) then you should just wish him luck and tell him what will be will be and not to worry about it.
It's not the end of the world if he's not there - you will cope and he will have the rest of the baby's life to make it up to him/her
Just book the date that is best for the baby and let life take its course!
Nonomum, a friend has tried a bit of reflexology while doing moxa, and is doing a full relaxation massage next week, before ECV, which might happen. 
onceamai thanks for that! Good to know that babies can flip even after an ECV has failed! Not sure they'd want to schedule an elective section on the 18th, as it's the weekend and presumably they like to keep whatever bods are on duty for the emergency ones. But if they could, I'd do it.
Eek! Fair enough. (your DH obv more Important than my DH! )
Glad to hear positive stories about breeches flipping late. Mine has been bum-down for at least a couple of months now, I think. Pretty sure his bottom isn't engaged yet. I've been doing breech flip poses but find them very uncomfortable to the point of feeling sick, can't do them for more than a couple of mins. Crawling about a bit, and doing moxa on toes. ECV on tues. That's about it!
Try reflexology for your breech baby.
And don't worry. My husband got offered a job when he was in the car park after I'd just delivered DD2. Good job that hadn't phoned a little while earlier... It was a double-celebration.
Oh, and he missed DD1 completely. Was on the motorway at the time.
But she's his favourite now!! 
He can't though, duchesse. They have job talks on the first day and the interviews on the second day, and because of train and available flight timings, he's probably going to have to go up on the 14th, do his talk and interview on the next two days and then come back late into the evening.
I know, I know, he does have to go. I did point out that if he went when I was actually in labour, he could go as long as he didn't mind leaving his balls behind! But obviously if I were actually having the baby, he wouldn't go.
No, I don't think life should be on total hold for 6 weeks, but the baby is far more likely to come 10 days before due date than at 36 weeks! I'm feeling impossibly hormonal about it all, and trying hard to be adult and see the larger picture, but after the house move and everything, it just feels like the last straw.
Of course, if the baby weren't breech, it could still come at any time, so I'd have to accept that too. Am not prepared to have an elective section as early as 10th Dec though - hate the idea of yanking him out before he's ready (after all, there's no medical reason to get him out before he's cooked) and that's why we'd already thought those dates were best, or the week after.
Thanks, FurryOne - I do keep on forgetting that Christmas may well be a non-event or delayed anyway, with the EDD of 26th Dec! I just need to accept this, but - argh!!! I'm not really angry at DH - I know I said I resented it but it's not him really, it's just The Universe. /throws dummy out of pram.
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