to want to physically hurt the bastard who keyed my car?

[perpetuallypregnant]

:(
I've only had it 2 months, it's the nicest/newest car I've ever had and I love it.

Last night some mindless idiot keyed all the way along the passenger side so it has a really long nasty scratch on it :(

I have a £250 excess on my insurance so it'll have to wait to get fixed until after Christmas.

I'm not an angry person but it makes me so mad!!!!!!! I'm having actual violent thoughts.

Why??????????????

[Ilythia]

I didn't say it was acceptable. I didn't say it was't a nice thing to happen, it isn't.

I really just think it's not as bad as a lot of people on here think it is.

[Hulababy]

SauvignonBlanche - keying of car is v obviously deliberate compared to an accidental scratch ime. You'd know the difference.

[SauvignonBlanche]

Are you sure you've been 'keyed' it could have been someone in a mobility scooter or something trying to manouver on a partly blocked pavement?

[nancydrewrocked]

Ok - leave aside my analogy of the handbag snatch.

Is the glass in your front window "just glass"?

Is the paint on your front door "just paint"?

Are the bricks in your house "just bricks"?


They mean something because you paid for them, are responsible for their upkeep and it's crap to have your things damaged/stolen.

Of course you can live with the damage, it doesn't have to be repaired, but BDSM is right: it does feel personal. It is depressing and miserable to feel that someone for whatever reason felt it was OK to damage something that you paid a lot of money for. Being faced with teh damage day in day out is, I imagine, a depressing reminder.

I am actually stunned that people think this sort of mindless thuggish behaviour is acceptable.

[sonotboden]

we had this at our last house- always happened on a friday night- we reckoned it was kids- my only consolation is that they will one day have a car that is their pride and joy and it will happen to them

[Hulababy]

Riven - but it is more than just paint. It is the fact that someone has damaged, deliberately often something tha belongs to you. Something you may well have spent an awful lot of money on. Leaving the scratch can cause worst damage through rusting, and it reduces the value of a car - this is important for DH's car as it is leased and has to go back in a given state, or for mine when I want to trade it in.

I hate vandalism. The damaging of something that doesn't belong to you.

However I do not condone parking badly.

But two wrongs do not make a right.

[Hulababy]

Anyone who keys a car is commintting a criminal offence. They are acting as a criminal. It is wrong. There is no justification.

It is because people carrying out mindless damage that causes everyone's insurance to be higher.

[BelleDameSansMerci]

Actually, having your car keyed does feel personal. It feels like your car has been singled out for some reason and you are being bullied. My car was repeatedly damaged outside my house (where I used to live), while responsibly and perfectly (I'm a bit obsessive) parked on the road.

I have a nice car. I don't deserve to have my car vandalised repeatedly just because I have something some mindless thug can't afford.

Keying a car is symptomatic of wider lawless behaviour. It is not trivial when it happens to you and it's not trivial in the wider context of society. Why would anyone think it's ok for someone to damage someone else's property?

[justsue]

yanbu: Years ago I brought a new car (to me it was anyway). Had saved hard for it after breaking up with xp. Parked it on my drive!

Couple of hours later xp turned up to pick up my daughter and I was so proud of my new purchase only to find the boy next door had keyed it from front to back!!!

The reason I say it was the boy next door is that when I knocked on the mothers door and said that he had admitted it :(

Her reasoning behind his behaviour was "You should not be such a fucking snob then!

My answer was; Cos I work full time and dont drink beer on the driveway that makes me a snob....

moved not long after.

yanbu

[igetmorelovefromthecat]

I would be livid too. A few years ago I lived in a really skanky town and there was nowhere to park except on the road. Got up one day and some idiot chav had keyed every single car along the road from front to back, there were at least 50 cars as it was a very long street.

Luckily my car was an old shitter so I wasn't too bothered. But DP's car was nice and he was trying to sell it so he was annoyed. Mindless vandalism sucks. Now I live in a nice little town and I have still had the windscreen wipers nicked, the glass taken out of a wing mirror and the badge at the front of my car taken. It's so irritating.

YANBU.

[donkeyderby]

Someone mugging you for a handbag is hardly the same thing. Mugging is direct and frightening - keying a car is really just annoying, surely.

YABU. Get an old banger like mine and you won't notice whether it's been keyed or not. I certainly wouldn't want to 'physically hurt' someone who keyed my car. I can think of a lot worse things to happen to a person

[TheCoalitionNeedsYou]

She does have a choice. She can park on another road.

[ledkr]

i had old bangers until i was £40 then got my first half decent car, a banger to some it was a little blue golf convertable and cost 4000. I worked in a childrens home and one of them scratched it out of spite.I nearly had a heart attack.Now have an even more expensive golf and have bumped it twice. There is a lot to be said for an old banger imo.

[Ilythia]

Someone spraypainted Cunt and Bitch along the side wall of our house after we moved in, in 5 foot high letters.
We painted over it.

Violence against an inanimate object, while annoying and time consuming to deal with, is not as bad as violence against a person, so your mugging analogy falls down there I'm afraid.

I am just talking about the frothing at the mouth and renting of clothes at the fact that a car has been scratched. I know it is upsetting, but shit happens, no need to get all hysterical about it.

[nancydrewrocked]

Ilythia by that token:

If someone grafittied over your front door...it's only a bit of paint

If someone smashed your front window...it is only a bit of glass

If someone mugs you for your handbag...it's only a few quid

[Ilythia]

roffling at keying a car being worse than blocking a pavement.



It's only some fecking paint people!

[nancydrewrocked]

Coalition it does effect everyone. I have a protected no claims bonus and a £150 excess so rather than pay the £1300 to fix my car I claimed on my insurance.

That is why insurance is so expensive and why many young people simply cannot get it.

There are more drivers driving uninsured than ever before so lets hope one of those doesn't drive into you whilst your crossing the road, leaving you with bills that will never be paid. Although I suspect in your world that would ultimately be my responsibility for pushing up the insurance by making a claim

[applecrumbleandcream]

Coalition - your attitude stinks! The OP has explained that she "has" to park on the pavement in what is a narrow road, she has no other option and also the pavement where she lives is wide, where would you park if this was your house? I bet you'd do the same. Keying a car does affect lots of people not just one - it is upsetting within the family, time consuming and costly!!

[Ilythia]

Oh wow, lets not lose perspective here people

[TheCoalitionNeedsYou]

PlanetEarth - No. If you look at the total cost to all those affected, the inconsiderate parking is much worse.

[PlanetEarth]

Actually Coalition, no it isn't. Inconsiderate parking is a pain, but is thoughtless rather than malicious (big difference I think) and is generally a temporary annoyance. Keying a car is malicious and can cost the victim hundreds of pounds to put right.

[TheCoalitionNeedsYou]

Inconsiderate parking is much worse than keying a car. Bad parking effects everyone. Keying a car effects one person.