This is so unbelievably shit.
I recently found out dh's drinking again.
Called Al-Anon helpline. I can't make him stop and everything I could do is utterly counterproductive.
We settled on him telling me before he drank. Last night he had hall and bottle of vodka before I realised.
I hate the deception. I can't stand it. He is a proper alcoholic and just wants to drink.
He hates himself so much, I am worried he may kill himself.
I want to keep our family together but I'm not sure I can or should.
I am consumed with terror. Childhood abuse and parental alcoholism robbed me of my birth family and now I may loose the person who has loved me unconditionally for the last 20 years.
The pain is excruciating.
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Alcohol support
Living with an alcoholic
nobodysdaughternow · 28/05/2023 07:39
BritInAus · 28/05/2023 07:44
And I promise you, the pain of living with an end stage alcoholic, and trying to protect your children and your own mental health from that, is far more excruciating than no longer being in a relationship with someone who prioritizes alcohol over you could ever be.
Honestly, the worst bit is the part between realizing that it needs to end, and saying the words. Once you've separated, the rest will work itself out. You can do it.
junebirthdaygirl · 28/05/2023 08:08
It might be more helpful for him if you asked him to leave as its only when they reach Rock bottom that some get help. While he is with you and the dc he is being propped up and kept standing. So it might be easier for you to decide..l need to be cruel to be kind. Has he been in rehab? Proper live in treatment centre? He needs to go. He also needs to have consequences when he drinks.Not life continuing as usual. It's horrible for both of you. You have my sympathy.
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