Ex's drinking is worse than I though what if anything can I do to support him

[unicornsarereal72]

Morning all.

The kids dad left me a few years ago. His drinking was becoming more of an issue. Apparently I was the problem and he needed to leave. Fair enough

The past 2 years he has been very inconsistent with contact. Out of work. No money and eventually homeless and staying with friends.

Due to lockdown we agreed he would stay here. I still have to work. And the children need his support.

He managed 2 days then went to see a friend. And promised to be back in a few hours. No surprise he fell off the face of the earth.

I tracked him down 24 hours later. yesterday afternoon at his friends. Drunk as a lord doing karaoke. Oblivious of me needing him here so I can work and go shopping as planned. (I got my keys off him as he took the only set I have for the car and left him to it)

So that's the back ground.

I know the 3 c. And I take no responsibility for him in anyway, but finally to my question. I want him to know when he wants to sort his shit out I will support him. My kids need their dad.

I won't give him money etc. But would like to keep in touch. Do you think that's a good idea. I don't want to give him mixed messages. I also don't want him to think he is completely alone as he has a history of suicidal thoughts. I have told him to see gp before. Obviously currently that isn't an option.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

[Skittles87]

I agree with healthy and happy. I struggle with an addiction to alcohol but not to the extreme. My mom has and who ever is going through it must hit rock bottom and know they need help without being pressured by others to stop when they aren't willing. Just makes it worse. But definitely letting him know he's not alone is good. But wouldn't trust him with your kids and keys

[Healthyandhappy]

I have similar with my Dh. Unless they wanna stop they wont lv. It's like gonna slimming world to lose weight but going home and eating cake. He needs to lose everything b4 he changes zx