Hi,
We adopted through an agency over a decade ago and have also not lived in the UK for many years.
We have just moved back, partly because of the difficulties we are experiencing with our DS which seemed to have exploded since hitting adolescence.
When he was at primary school he was always well behaved etc. However, at home (since early childhood) we experience meltdowns, extreme anger, sometimes the throwing and destroying things. He can be extremely mean to his sibling and me as his main carer.
However, since starting the equivalent of secondary school these are now happening at school and also more extreme at home. He has also started to refuse to attend school and tends to refuse to do anything that is asked of them.
l suspect that our DS is ND but we have been told that as they were okay at school….it was our problem! We did have an assessment/counselling where we were told they suspected ODD or a personality disorder, however our son refused to even talk to the psychiatrist and would only speak through us.
We would like to access post adoption support to get the help he needs.
So? Do we contact the agency he was adopted through? Do we contact post adoption where we now live in the UK, or where we previously lived?
Any help would be most appreciated. We are really struggling as a family.
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REignbow · 13/03/2024 08:02
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FunnyFinch · 13/03/2024 08:21
but we have been told that as they were okay at school
even though you say the extreme behaviour is since starting the equivalent of secondary school these are now happening at school ?
you need to progress an assessment as a top priority
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