I'm a foster carer, and my two gorgeous little ones (4 and 6) will soon be meeting their new mummy and daddy.
Any hints or tips please, things I can do to help my LOs and their new parents during (and after) transition? What did your foster carers do that you found particularly helpful, or anything I should definitely avoid?
(All my previous children have moved on to family, to long term foster care, or to independence.)
Many thanks
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elephantsandbumblebees · 18/02/2024 05:38
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onlytherain · 18/02/2024 18:44
We had a very good transition with an experienced foster carer. Mine were 5 and 6 at the time.
- prepared the children extemely well by talking about us a lot, explaining what was going to happen, answered their questions, made it clear it was a good thing
- we had sent childrens' books about London, she read them with them many times and they were excited to move to London
- read the welcome book and watched the welcome film we had made with them every day
- referred to us as Mummy and Daddy straight away; when the children asked her for permission told them they needed to ask us now from the first day of intros
- made us feel welcome and liked
- send the children with little stuff - just their clothes, a few toys and teddies and their memory boxes
- gave them an album with photos of the childrens' friends, holidays and so on of their time with them and just a few pictures of themselves (could have been more)
- let their school know and made sure the school gave them a nice fairwell
- took a photo of us at the first meeting (we would have forgotten!)
- we didn't do a bedtime or morning routine, but it wasn't needed
- always made us feel that we could ask them anything
- wanted to stay in touch with us (we still are - 11 years on)
- told us what the children liked and what we needed to watch out for to make sure we had a good start
- gave us some of the childrens' things during intros, so when the children first saw our flat, some of their things were already there
- made it very clear to the children they loved them, but let them go
- did a quick hand over on the morning we took them home
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