AD2 has been home over a year and is doing really well. However she is finding it hard that I've gone back to work. I had a year off at home with her. Then she started nursery and a couple of weeks later I went back to work. Basically since then she has been very rejecting of me - if I go to get her up in the morning she yells, "not that mummy!" and tries to send me out of the room.
I get it must be hard for her but I'm really struggling not to take it personally. I love her so much, and I know part of our job as parents is to love our child even when they hate us, but it's so hard. Does anyone have any tips for dealing with this? (My wife is very supportive by the way, and I do talk to friends about it all.) Also our dog died recently, which is going to be making it harder for me to cope with things and also will be extra confusing for my little girl.
Also any tips for supporting her and helping her feel secure with me? I know I truly good attachment takes years. I take her swimming once a week, I almost always do bathtime and that is time with just lots of playing. We play lots of hiding games, we have a few games that she and I play and she doesn't play with anyone else, and some little songs that we sing together about how I love her.
Would it be worth doing a social story type thing? I work in a hospital so it would be easy to get a photo of me in my uniform and a picture of making someone well (she knows ambulances and fire engines and police help people). And then a picture of me and her at the end?
I guess this is mostly just a need to get this off my chest, so thank you for reading.
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ScottishBeth · 26/11/2023 09:08
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