I think I've posted about this before but we are struggling so much.
We've had ds from 2years old. We were told there was a chance birth mom had drank during pregnancy and that the worst thing would be he might not be able to tell the time properly.
After ds was back for several years we discovered there was lots of evidence bm had drank and used drugs through the pregnancy. Shortly after this ds was diagnosed with fasd.
Ds is really polite around others , very clever, very sociable. School insist he's fine in school (although the OT who went in to see him said he's not)
We haven't got an ehcp because of schools reluctance.
Ds is a nightmare at home. He's convinced he knows best with everything. He tries to blindside us and argues with everything. He's sneaky and manipulative. He has little impulse control. Has a need to be with older children/to be treated older than he is (10)
Hes obsessive about horror/murderers (we do not allow this) but he pushes and manipulates the answers out of others.
He has huge meltdowns.
We spike to adoption support last year who arranged 6 sessions with an ot. She was amazing, she is the only person who has got him complelty. The sessions ended and the school hasn't done much with the report. Ds got very upset at leaving her.
They also arranged a psychologist. Ds refused to go to the sessions. They were a 45minute drive away during school time. He didn't want tonstay away from school anymore because he didn't want people thinking he was "different". The psychologist also wanted us to have sessions (we've been having them and courses for years bit again they were during work time. We already have time off for paediatrician appts/all the ot appts we jist couldn't do it. We asked for more ot session but a support said no. Because we couldn't get ds to go to appts we had to have our case closed. He's also refusing to do sensory circuits at home or school.
Ds desperately want to "fit in" but he has such a skewed idea of what that is. He can tell the time but had no time awareness. He can add and subtract money but has no idea of the value. He apparently behaves at school but refuses to do homework and has afterschool blow out.
I don't know why I'm writing all of this really. I just don't know what to do.
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scarfonthestairs · 28/08/2023 08:01
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