A bit of background; we have secondary infertility and have been doing ivf/fertility treatment for a few years now. We are now closing that chapter and looking into adoption. We have a 4 year old biological daughter who is about to turn 5, and I just wanted to hear about experiences from people who had adopted after having a biological child? Obviously in my dreams they become an incredible support for each other and it all gores incredibly well. But I know the reality is that adopted children often come with issues. Would be really interested in hearing from anyone with this real life experience. Thanks!
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MovingMad87 ·
25/06/2023 21:25
Sarfar45 · 25/06/2023 19:20
I found keeping life very low key for a few years really helped.
Adopting the opposite sex helped too I think, they weren't in competition with each other. There is a 7 1/2 year age gap and it's worked well as I had time on my own with them both when they were little and I could explain to my eldest that ds needed a bit more time to start with.
We were very honest with our social workers what we could and couldn't cope with as a family.
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