I recently - 4 weeks ago - adopted a 2 year old boy at the age of 49. I was so happy at first, and really, the boy is lovely, a real joy and I am so lucky. But in the last 3 to 4 days I've been taken over by a terrible guilt and sadness. I go to the park and see young mums with their children and I feel a horrid mixture of emotions. Firstly, I feel like I am too old for my son, and that I have deprived him of the opportunity to have a young vibrant mummy. I feel like I have been selfish, putting my desire for a child before his deserving of a more youthful mummy, (maybe I should have just accepted that I was not going to have a child?) and I feel like I am not good enough for him, he deserves so much more (as I said, he is gorgeous). His foster family are amazing too.
I don't know what to do with these thoughts, they seem to have taken up residence in my brain.
Not sure why I'm posting, or what anyone can do really. Just feeling blue.
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3randomwords · 25/04/2022 21:57
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