Hi all.
Some of you may remember a thread where I was concerned about DS being very 'regimented' & not really showing a great deal of emotion about, well anything.
He has started to come out of his shell at school a little, & a see tiny glimpses of things at home, but noting really.
However last night he didn't sleep for some time, I listened in to his chatter for a while, he was repeating things primarily I had said to him in a real sort of nasty mean voice! He also referred to me as my name & not "mum" & referred to DH as "baby daddy?"
The things he was saying were in relation to what I believe he thinks are me "telling him off" I.e. when I've said no for something, or asked him to not do something. But along side just everyday conversations I've had with him but in that same condescending voice.
I was quite shaken :-( but I knew there must be something underneath that external "always well behaved" behavior. Also the last few days I have been ensuring I have left a small amount of time where he is to play on his own, as he is completely incapable of doing so while I am in the house, no one else just me. Probably my own fault giving him so much.
So perhaps this is his way of venting about things he's not pleased with?? Therefore I should really take it as a good thing?!? One day no doubt hell get these feelings out to my face.
Do anyone have any thoughts on this? Clearly I won't tell him I listened, likewise I need to just put it to the back of my mind & understand he is still settling, & it isn't a "personal attack" at me. I'm just too soft!
Interesting my mum & family know I am a bit of a worrier, always have been. My mum thinks that he is likely picking up on my almost "fear" if you like of certain things he does, trying to understand if there are problems I can help him with. Instead of just not overthinking them, then they'll go away.
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Buster51 · 15/03/2014 07:03
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