Awkward school mum situation

[SpanishTale]

Oh man. Why me lol

Long story short. Our kids are young. Only been in school 18 months. They were friendly at first but now my child has branched off and has stronger friendships with others. This boys mum has a habit of over texting and being quite pushy. She's a nice person but it's too much.
At the end of last year this child and mine had a scuffle. She wasn't happy and phoned me to tell me the over exaggerated injuries her child had. I apologised but explained my child was with his dad so I didn't know the details but his dad has dealt with it. After this the next couple of days she bombarded me with texts so I decided to take a step back
Tonight my child told me this child told him he isn't his friend as I don't ring his mum. Obviously he's overheard something.
Awkward ?

[pictoosh]

Nah. Ignorable.

[Aquamarine1029]

I wouldn't even give this another thought. Who cares?

[SpanishTale]

Obviously me lol.

[DrJoanAllenby]

Just block her number. Why would you let someone bombard you with texts?

You are under no obligation to communicate with her.

[Aquamarine1029]

Why would you care? This woman sounds insufferable and she's not your friend. What she thinks is irrelevant.

[Saschka]

Tonight my child told me this child told him he isn't his friend as I don't ring his mum.

Problem solved, surely?

[SpanishTale]

I'm too bloody soft that's why!

[pictoosh]

@Saschka

Tonight my child told me this child told him he isn't his friend as I don't ring his mum.

Problem solved, surely?

Yeah. I thought this.
Why worry? Give yourself a fist bump.

[InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow]

Excellent, job done then.

I had a situation with a mum at school, just started ignoring her because I couldn't be arsed with the drama, then on a class trip her dd said to me that her mum cries because of me and turns up music so she can sob in peace (that's the level of dramatics I'm talking about, and the kid was 6)

I just said "that's a shame your Mummy feels sad" and moved on with my life.

[SpanishTale]

This is why people warn against school mums on here.

[TeenLifeMum]

At least she’s self selected and you can just stay well away. The mums on the playground are far worse than the kids!

[TipsyKoala]

Ignore her. I hate the way some mums try to influence who their kids are friends with based on their own cliques.

[SpanishTale]

Yea this child doesn't have many friends and I think my child is too soft like me

[Dacadactyl]

This is such a non issue.

[SpanishTale]

Not really to me. That's why I posted. The mum used to bombard me with messages and actually I think this 'not my mate' thing is the best!
Thanks to sensible posters.

[Newnamesameoldlurker]

I feel for you OP, I get why you feel awkward- I'm a people pleaser and soft too! Just be really pleasant and friendly when you see her in person (but not 'friend', friendly) and it will eventually stop feeling awkward. You haven't done anything wrong. Life is full of these slightly awkward situations. Proves you're a nice person that you're fretting a bit about her feelings

[SpanishTale]

I need to be more savvy I think. Obviously I can't control who my child wants to be friends with but at least I can distance myself.

[fluffycloudalert]

this child doesn't have many friends

I think I can guess why!

[TheSnowyOwl]

But she isn’t your friend so I don’t see the issue? Few people are genuine friends with many of the other parents they meet at the school gate.

[SpanishTale]

The issue is she's very persistent and it gets awkward. Maybe some people don't get awkward feelings I do !

[TheSolstices]

@SpanishTale

This is why people warn against school mums on here.

This is a wild overreaction to something most people wouldn’t give a second thought to. ‘School mums’ aren’t some kind of aggressive Borg, they’re just female people exactly like you who happen to have children at school. Your children had one of the normal fluctuations in child friendships/classmate relationships. They could be best friends again in a fortnight. You have to stop taking these little events so much to heart.

[MrsDerwent]

@TheSolstices

This is a wild overreaction to something most people wouldn’t give a second thought to. ‘School mums’ aren’t some kind of aggressive Borg, they’re just female people exactly like you who happen to have children at school. Your children had one of the normal fluctuations in child friendships/classmate relationships. They could be best friends again in a fortnight. You have to stop taking these little events so much to heart.

I think it can be a slightly different situation though, as it’s difficult to avoid the… interesting… ones. You’re out in the same orbit most days, potentially for a protracted number of years. Then you have the complication of intertwined relationships of your children. It’s a dynamic specific to parenthood, and often motherhood. You get better at spotting the crazy, but it’s often too late for the first go around!

[SpanishTale]

Thanks for the sensible posts. This lady is texting me asking me to meet today and struggles to take no for an answer. I want to tell her to back off. I hate feeling harassed by people. I'm a wimp though so have archived her messages instead

[BMW6]

"Can we meet?"

"No thank you."

"Please "

"No thank you"

Then block.

[pictoosh]

In future just reply, "Can't, I'm afraid. Have plans. x"

No 'sorry' and no explanation. Just a polite, truthful no. Nothing for her to build on. Don't reply to any further texts about it after that. You're busy after all...even if your plans are doing nothing and not replying to texts.