My 2.5 year old starts the night in her own room and normally wakes after a few hours and riddles into our room where she sleeps through until morning. She did cosleep for some time and only started sleeping through a few months ago which really was absolutely wonderful. She has a medical condition and her clinical team wondered if she may have some pain and discomfort at nights which had been causing frequent night wakings for the first couple of years and so we were happy to do whatever she needed to help her get to sleep. She has surgery next year.
When she moved to her own room she started night waking again which I'm sure is quite normal and I suspect that if we were very consistent about keeping her there then this would resolve but due to the above and our own sleep needs we decided to let her come in here when she wanted to. Occasionally she has spent the whole night in her room.
My DH usually sleeps in other room as he gets up very early and does a lot of driving and he definitely will when the new baby arrives as I don't see the need in us both being woken frequently.
DC2 is due in a few weeks. I'm happy with the current situation as delighted DD is now sleeping through once she comes in here, but I am a little concerned about whether the baby will disturb DC1's sleep? I have a Next to Me for the baby and would just lift and feed either in the bed or if I think it's disturbing her, in DC1's room across the hallway if she has already come into this room.
The other option is to accept some difficult nights and try to enforce DC1 staying in her own room, but I'm concerned that this is now too close to the baby being due and she will feel pushed out when she sees the baby in our room with me. I also suspect it will still result in a few night wakes long term and don't think it will help any of us if I'm getting up with both of them all night (until a few months ago DC1 woke two hourly or more all night every night).
Has anyone successfully coslept with a toddler and also had the new baby in the room? I didn't envisage cosleeping etc with first child but it's worked out this way best for all of us and we're doing what works. Ideally I'd move new baby into their own room at about nine months and then at that point look to transition DC1 to their own room permanently if she has recovered from surgery etc.
Any experiences really welcome! We have a little bit of light in this room from en-suite mirror and I think it's enough that when I lift baby I wouldn't need to put any lighting on etc and as I say if DC1 is already in here I can pop into her room to change baby etc as needed
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Did anyone have a toddler that came into parent bed at night, as well as a newborn in the room?
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Dinosaursinthebathtub · 12/10/2020 07:50
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