Is my baby growing okay?

[Laura55]

Recently I’ve been questioning if my baby is growing how a baby should grow. She’s a big girl (her dad is 6’5) so at 10 months I have to give her 18-24 mths clothes. She’s very active and healthy, no vaccines but never caught a cold or a bug or anything like that. She doesn’t crawl but she kind of just sits on her belly and drags herself on the bed (if that makes any sense lol). She gets up in her cot and she holds on to it and just sits up by herself but doesn’t walk (still very early so not very worried about that). She plays with toys but she gets bored and picks up the remote because she wants the tv on. I think I taught her to watch peppa pig on tv because when she was 6-7 months I was a single mother 24/7 with not much support so that was the only way I could keep her calm to clean/cook or just take a shower. The way I imagine a 10 month old is literally playing and knowing how to do certain things and seeing their little brain develop and getting smarter, I feel like my daughter isn’t interested in playing or just sitting down to play.
Also when it comes to food, she had 8 teeth and the next ones very close to coming out but I’m so scared to let her eat by himself. Made her toast with a bit of butter and honey the other day and cut it in small cubes and she ate fine but my anxiety levels were going highhhh. If anyone knows any foods to start with independent eating or any toys your babies were interested in or just any cute ones that help develop their little brains I’d appreciate it.
So is my baby developing okay? Is she meant to be a certain way at this age?

[Mylittlesandwich]

I did think that seahorse my DS was 10lbs 10oz at birth and had followed the 99.8th percentile and he's 10 months old in 12-18 month clothing...

[OhToBeASeahorse]

• a 10 month old in 18-24 month clothing
• honey
• vaccines.

Interesting array of details there.

[henrykissingher]

can you post links to the vaccine research you did please?

[MasksGlovesSoapScrubs]

Eh? You're anxious about her eating on her own but quite happy for her to be unvaccinated?..

She also shouldn't be having honey under one. Change it to maple syrup.

She's only 10 months so don't expect too much.

[peonia]

This is an article about a man who caught polio when he was six. Sometimes it helps to think about an individual and the impact on their life when it comes to the issue of vaccinations

www.theguardian.com/society/2020/may/26/last-iron-lung-paul-alexander-polio-coronavirus

[MsEllany]

I’d love to see the ‘research’ you did that’s better than decades of research by medical professionals and immunologists .

You might not like being called an idiot but sorry you are. I’ve never met an anti-vaxxer in the wild before.

[MrsJemimaDuck]

Death is not the only outcome if your baby catches a disease that we vaccinate for. Many can leave your child with permanent damage. Thankfully, because of vaccines, how terrible these diseases are have left our consciousness. But if you found someone who suffered and survived, I’m sure you can find nearly no one who would tell you they would prefer to have had the disease over the vaccine. My parents had many of these diseases in childhood. I read my great-grandmother’s diary—about the time my grandfather had measles. He was so sick, and she was terrified. Guess who is vaccinated? Me and my child.

It’s breathtakingly selfish—not just to release your child into the world, where she could infect someone who is vulnerable, but also because as her mother, you are meant to do what you can do to protect her from harm when she is too young to make the decision for herself. No reputable doctor would advise against vaccinations. And if you think you know better, I just can’t take the rest of your post seriously.

[NoWordForFluffy]

I've reported as I'm not convinced by the whole thing.

[mynameiscalypso]

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

So tou looked into vaccinations enough to decide that you don't want to vaccinate your child (not a food decision), but it sounds like you don't have the first clue about child development, started foods etc and at 10 months are calling your child lazy because she isn't walking yet

I feel really sorry for this poor baby.

[TheLovleyChebbyMcGee]

Please vaccinate your baby. Have you seen the state of the world lately? That's without 1 vaccine. Imagine how bad it would be without any vaccines!!!

It's selfish to rely on herd immunity when so many cannot be vaccinated for health reasons.

[Iminaglasscaseofemotion]

Loads of mistakes in there, but I'm sure you can work it out.

[Flatwhite32]

I was going to offer advice on this post until I read not vaccinated. Sorry OP, but I am going to judge you. Let's hope your child doesn't come near an immune suppressed child. Your baby won't develop normally if she catches measles then gets brain damage.

[Iminaglasscaseofemotion]

So tou looked into vaccinations enough to decide that you don't want to vaccinate your child (not a food decision), but it sounds like you don't have the first clue about child development, started foods etc and at 10 months are calling your child lazy because she isn't walking yet

[FelicityPike]

Selfish idiot!
Please don’t anyone @ me. You all know deep down that they are!

[firstimemamma]

'Nor does' not 'not does'

[firstimemamma]

Just because you and people you know had no vaccines and haven't been affected doesn't mean it's safe and not does doing some research. There are many, many other people outside of who you know who have suffered needlessly just through not being vaccinated. My fiancé is a paramedic and you honestly don't want to know some of the things he has seen. Even children who do pull through from these horrible illnesses and survive can be left with life-changing consequences afterwards e.g limb amputation.

[Onekidnoclue]

Please vaccinate your baby. There is no credible evidence to suggest it’s a bad idea and I think the fact you don’t want to be ‘scared’ by people explaining why you should. I’m afraid I don’t think much of the research you’ve done into what’s best for a baby if you’re giving her honey and tv but not immunity to deathly diseases.

[Rainyrain]

Do you play with the baby? At 10 months you can’t really expect her to entertain herself.
She doesn’t really need tv either at her age. Get on the floor with her and bang some pots and pans or build a tower to knock down, sing nursery rhymes, go for a swing at the park, talk to her all the time about everything. Don’t just pop her in front of the tv and expect her to get on with playing solo.
She does need finger foods too. I always cut foods into adult ring finger size and basically gave them whatever we were having (no honey as already mentioned).

I don’t think you fully understand vaccinations. It’s great to vaccinate to protect your own child but it’s actually needed to protect others who can’t be vaccinated.
Maybe do a little more research into all areas of caring for your baby and speak to a health visitor. It’s probably been hard to see them in person over the last few months but I’m sure they’re on the end of the phone.

[titchy]

Hasn't she even had tetanus?

[mynameiscalypso]

With respect, no amount of proper research will lead you to the conclusion that it's best not to vaccinate.

[titchy]

I did my research before I chose not to vaccinate her and I’m happy with my decision,
You didn't do any research at all don't be stupid. You found a few quack articles online that supported your view that vaccines were bad. That's not research love.

[TheFormerPorpentinaScamander]

Please keep your unvaxxed child away from my DN who can't have vaccines and could die if she catches something.

Not walking at 10 months is totally normal. Some babies walk at 9 months, including my DB 38 years ago. Most don't.

A variety of toys is what matters imo. So some that light up/make a noise. Shape sorters. Stacking cups/bricks. Things with buttons. Things you can shake. Roll. Hit. Sit her up and roll a ball between you. Put things just out of her reach so she has to move to get them.

[ShalomToYouJackie]

It's incredibly selfish not to vaccinate your child, not just to your DD but for all the children your DD will be in contact with at nursery, play groups and school.


I worked at a GP surgery in a University city and you wouldn't believe the amount of teenagers who would ring up who had just left home and wanted their vaccines as their parents were anti-vaxxers and they hadn't been allowed them. So selfish and dangerous.

[amusedbush]

When my friend's son was too young to have all of his vaccinations, he became very ill thanks to an older child who had not been vaccinated. He was hospitalised and seriously unwell.

Your child might get lucky, but they could pass on an illness to a younger or immunosuppressed child. So selfish.

[sqirrelfriends]

@Laura55 well all that matters is that your child is ok. Never mind all the children who are already ill and could die from preventable diseases.