Quick Poll re Toddler Sleep

[Art3mis]

I'm not a journo, just trying to make a point.

DS is 2.5. He is bf to sleep (I've recently dropped all night feeds but hopefully I'll be able to drop this one in the next month or so and have stopped completely), and then I/we go to to him between 1-4 times through the night for a hug/reassurance whatever.

How often do/did you go in to your toddler around this age? What did you to when you went to them? When did you stop going to them?

I think it's still reasonable that we're having to go see him, H does not.

[SpringIntoSpring]

When our dc were toddlers (and even when they were young babies) they went to bed at 7, without a feed, and just slept until 7 the following morning. If they cried it meant there was a problem so we obvs went in to see them but they rarely did.

[Art3mis]

Thanks all.

Has shown H that maybe there is no normal for toddler sleep! Coincidently, toddler slept through for first time ever last night!

[MamaRaisingBoys]

Ds slept 7-7 from 11 weeks old apart from episodes of teething and illness. Moved house when he was 2.9 and been a nightmare sleeper ever since. Can go in to him up to 5 times a night so given in now and he comes into our bed at first wake. He’s 3.2

[LadyGAgain]

Mine is 2. She goes to bed at 6 and wakes generally at 7am next morning. Has done since she was 10 months.

[Shantotto]

DS 3.5 and wales a couple of times a night, we just need to put his duvet back on or give a quick pat and he’ll go back to sleep. Unless he’s ill like last night where he woke every hour pretty much.

He’s asleep around 7 but wakes up at 5am every single day. Slept through the night a handful of times.

[Rubusfruticosus]

Mine coslept and breastfed through the night as a toddler, but was sleeping through in his own bed in my room at two and a half.

[3in4years]

Dc1 was sleeping 8pm-7am at 11 months. Stopped breastfeeding at 12 months but still used a bottle to get to sleep.

Dc2 is 3 years old now. Started sleeping through just before the age of 3. Before this would wake once a night, usually upset, and need lots of attention to get back to sleep. She still struggles to get to sleep at night.

[RolandDeschainsGilly]

Toddler nearly 3. Tends to go to sleep okay ish. Last night? Had me up 7 times between 10-1 and I finally caved when she woke at 2 and bought her into my bed where she woke up a further 3 times and has just got up for the day.

This is standard for her. She has never ever slept and I’m fucking broken by it. Tried all sorts with her. Nothing works.

[DollyTots]

My 2.5 year old would normally sleep 6-6 and maybe have to go in once or twice. I started work again on a Sunday & since then she screams from 6-10pm (we're doing CC so do go in) So come 10pm we're exhausted, go to bed & she, still awake, sleeps on a camp bed on our floor. Even then she disturbs several times. She won't cosleep. I feel like I'm dying a slow death at the minute.

[chillydawg]

Tbh my youngest (20m old) was so terrible at night for so long, twice seems like a breeze now!

[chillydawg]

I have a 3yr old and a 20m old.
3yr old mostly sleeps through, might need a quick visit for reassurance now and then.

20m old is up a couple of times normally, normally just put the dummy in and he goes straight back off.

They both self settle but do have dummies.

[Orlande]

My that age my 3 were all sleeping 7-8pm to 6-7am. I wouldn't expect to go in to them unless ill/nightmares etc.
But, they all fell asleep independently so weren't waking every time they stirred in the night.

[snowone]

My daughter slept 7-7 from about 8 weeks, the only time we have had to go in is if she has been poorly.

[Redgreencoverplant]

DS will be 3 next month. Most nights he goes down and we don't hear from him until the morning. He does have short phases where that isn't the case though but they tend to only last a few days. If we do go to him he usually just needs a drink and a quick cuddle.

[Caterina99]

At 2.5 DS slept around 7-7. Unless ill, he probably woke in the night once a week or so to pee or for a dropped teddy etc. He would go back to sleep very quickly though.

[Camomila]

DS will be 3 in April. Goes to bed with us around 8.30, breastfeeds then has a few stories then snuggles down to sleep (brush his teeth in bed)

If I can be bothered I move him to his own bed.
Wakes around midnight, and shouts for me. Take him to bed with us, another quick bf and then he falls to sleep. Sometimes this happens another couple of times and I half wake up. Otherwise the sleeps for the rest of the night.

We are fine with it. Unless he's poorly he's slowly wanting less breastfeeds and just falls asleep with a hug or having his hair stroked.

I'm trying to gently wean him by 3. Will work on staying in his own bed after that, but don't see it as a big deal as both DH and I are from different cultures where cosleeping is more normal.

[Art3mis]

Hump we coslept in my bed until around September and then I spent 90% of my night in his bed until i stopped the noght feeds, so not something I want to get back into the habit of; it made things so much easier though, I definitely miss it when I'm sat trying to get him to go back down in the dark of the night.

[HumpHumpWhale]

At 2 with DS, I stopped going to him, I told him if he wanted me to come to me, and we co-slept from his first waking, which was between 11 and 4, otherwise he'd not go back to sleep (but went straight back to sleep if I was there). Then shortly after that I moved to the spare room because I was 6 months pregnant, and DS slept with DH. He slept through from 3.5 but only after we bribed him to stay in his room for more and more nights in a row. He slept in total 7 to 6.
DD is 2.5 now and does blocks of up to a week of sleeping through, interspersed with blocks of waking once or twice. I go in, lie down with her, and she usually settles fast. She does approx 8 to 7 on a good night.
Both dropped their naps by 2.5. I stopped breastfeeding at 20 months in both cases.
If you feel ok then I'd keep doing what you're doing. I only changed things with my kids when I felt they were ready and/or I just didn't want to keep going. Although with DS we did try a couple of times before it took!

[MiniMaxi]

DS is about 2.3 (I’ve lost count!). Goes to sleep roughly 8pm, up around 6 (he has always wanted about 10h at night). Often up once in the night looking for his toys or wanting a hug. Sometimes comes in our bed at that point.

He didn’t become a “decent sleeper” until about 19 months so I’m ok with all that!

[Art3mis]

Thanks for all the replies.

H thinks that he is waking too often and I shouldn't be going to him. I think it's been such a change for him in a relatively short period of time and am happy to still go in and reassure.

Last night was a bit better, only two wake ups, H did one (11pm) and I did the other (2am), DS slept until 630 this morning.

[Thecomfortador]

When ds was 2.5 I probably went in to him a couple of times in the night. He would feed before bed and I'd lie with him until he slept. He's 3 now and completely weaned, but I still sit with him until he's asleep. He sometimes has dreams or shouts / cries but still asleep. He always comes in to our bed in early hours and sleeps well next to us. Would be up around 7.30-8 if we don't have to be out of the door not long after 7.

[Endofrelationship]

Oh, and bedtime bis 7.30, up for the day around 6.

[Endofrelationship]

By 2.5 we'd just finished breastfeeding but he still needed hugs and 'hand boob' to get to sleep, took 30-60mins.

He'd wake 1-4 times, often needing to cosleep.

From my friends, there's a massive mix.

He's now 3 and sleeps through/ puts himself back to sleep 50% of the time and getting him to sleep takes 15-30 minutes.

[Sanch1]

My 2.5 year old DD goes to bed at 7pm and gets up at 630am as I wake her for work, sometimes at weekend she will sleep till 8am. I probably put her dummy back in once a night, but its generally shortly after she's gone bed before she's into a deep sleep, if it falls out later she doesnt notice. Once a week she'll probably wake and not go back to sleep so comes in with me then goes to sleep but most nights I dont hear from her.

[BipBippadotta]

DS is 21 months. About once every 8 weeks he randomly sleeps through the night, but most nights he is up every 2-3 hours for about an hour each time, either with night terrors or wide awake wanting to play. He is up for the day anywhere between 4:30 and 5:30. He is in his own room in a cot & stopped breastfeeding of his own accord at 19 months. We have tried every sleep training method apart from extreme CIO. I am broken with tiredness. He, meanwhile, is the life and soul of his nursery and always has a great day and never seems overtired to his key worker. 🤷‍♀️