I have cared for a lady with dementia for the last 4 yrs, and have recently also started to care for her husband, who is frail but otherwise in reasonable health. I am made to feel part of the family and the job has many benefits, and they are a lovely couple to be with.
However I am struggling with the increased hours, coupled with a mil who has been recently bereaved and is becoming increasingly reliant on some help too.The family have tried to find someone to job share, but with no success, hence me taking on the extra hours. I work part time, but over 5 days a week, which is not ideal as initially took the job on 3 days. I have only taken 1 day sick in the last 4 yrs as there is no one else to cover, and agency care is getting harder to come by in our area.
My other concern is that my current job has no long term security, as they continue to age the pair of them are a ticking time bomb, and have been told if anything happens to either of them, the other will have to go into a home.
Another care job has come up locally, with the same hours, but with 3 full days, which would far more suit my lifestyle and being on hand for mil. It involves care for a younger lady, so no long term worries, and there are other carers on hand so would be part of a small team. I have an interview next week.
The issue I have is a moral one - the elderly couple I look after have become extremely reliant on me, and the wife having dementia does not cope well with other people looking after her. I am concerned if Ieave it may fast track her into a home. Also I feel I letting the family down...….and the husband has become a real friend and often tells me he doesn't know how he would cope without my help.
Who's needs do I put first? My own but would feel terrible letting them down, or staying in the job until it no longer exists, but possibly resenting feeling 'trapped'?!
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Akrotiri1 · 13/02/2020 13:12
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