Not really too sure why Im posting but at a bit of a loss as to what to do & wondered if maybe anyone had any solutions or experiences..
My husband was made redundant 3-4 years ago & decided to set up as self employed doing what he was employed to do. I was a little nervous to begin with but his company offered a really good package in terms of training/materials/references etc which made it allot easier for him to start out.
Fast forward to January this year, he is doing very well, he is taking on lots of work/clients which is great but the business is beginning to take over our lives.
He is working 6 or 7 days a week most weeks, he leaves around 5am most days & usually isn't home until about 7pm, by which point he is exhausted so doesn't really get to see or spend any time with the children. If I need to discuss something with him I am having to text him info as by the time he's home showered & eaten he is ready for bed & doesn't really want to be having discussions.
I have offered to try and help out where I can, but I don't really have any experience of running a business so feel a bit like I am winging it with regards to tax returns VAT returns etc etc. He has just recently taken on a member of staff to help with the workload so I am desperately trying to sort out what I have to do/provide for that but this has given him more work rather than eased it.
He is very good at his job & his clients are always very happy but he isn't as great at the admin side of things, he does try but now it seems he think its easier to use me as his (unpaid) admin assistant!! I am taking calls, taking HUGE parcels in, doing VAT returns, Tax Returns, CIS payments, ordering stock etc etc. I have two (very busy) children & a dog to look after & I do all the normal house bits like the shopping cooking & cleaning aswell as caring for my mum who isn't well. I just don't have enough hours in the day to be doing all his work as well but if I cant get things done, he has to come in & do them when he gets home, so I kind of feel like I have to help.
I constantly have people telling me how good it is that he runs his own business/he can work on his own terms etc etc but we genuinely saw him more & had more quality family time when he worked for someone else!!
I don't want to carry on like this as its going to start affecting our relationship but what can I say/do that will help him out? Is this normal when you run your own business?! Any tips that might help me manage it all better??
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Canteverthinkofagoodone · 19/04/2018 12:02
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