I'm a victim of familial abuse and was shamed and ostracised for speaking up about it.
I have also blown the whistle over workplace failures and experienced the same response; shaming, aspersions cast on my mental health etc.
I also work with people who have been abused and am all too aware of how the shame that should be felt by the perpetrator is transferred onto the victim.
It got me to realising that I had - unknowingly - been carrying a lot of guilty and shameful feelings about my radfem stance. That it is my dirty secret that nobody can know about.
I have spoken to a couple of people lately in real life about Keira Bell's case and I am clear on my views but then afterwards panic that I may be misinterpreted, or reported to my employer. Shunned for speaking up.
And it occurred to me that the fear comes from having been shamed and punished for speaking out about situations of abuse in my life.
I never see shame from the rad fem position, only from the TRA side and I have had a moment of clarity that what we are seeing now in the shaming of rad fems, of JKR and others is a reaction to abuse being made public.
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Using shame to silence feminists
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thedaytoday · 09/10/2020 12:18
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