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It affects you.
I know there have been women and men complaining, contemplating and convincing others for years. But this is a thread for those who never really noticed the erosion of their rights, who have been "nice" for far too long. Who have bought into the idea that most people are nice, decent, kind, caring. And now find themselves... on the wrong side of "nice".
So I'll start:
I met up with a friend. We drank together. He raped me. Despite my request, I was unable to see a female officer (and I waited an hour and an half to urinate, so that I could be supervised). I was unable to request a female escort to the appropriate station (the police "changed hands", ie swapped me over in a carpark, in front of photo-taking tourists). Luckily, a female doctor was available for my physical, internal and emotional testing, but I heard her discuss my attacker with my liaison officer. I was unable to request a female photographer for evidential collection. A male officer was assigned to take me home. I thought I was fortunate, as my partner had accompanied me (though he was excluded from any part of my evidence), but said male officer sympathised with my partner, as he had had to wait all day for me.
My case - my experience - has been discharged. Nothing more will happen, except my memories and nightmares. I always thought I was "nice"... but I will fight for my niece's single sex spaces, and warn her of the risks of being "nice", until society acknowledges my experience.
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GinnyLane · 17/02/2020 18:04
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