I just watched this via Twitter (#AskMeThisNotThis). It's interesting.
www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/a20133039/lgbtq-questions/
I am increasingly of the mind that LGB has virtually nothing in common with T. Which is quite a mindset shift for me.
Listen to the lesbians in this conversation. They have almost nothing in common with the trans women, it seems to me.
It's also striking that there are no gay men featured - although I guess Cosmopolitan would argue that they're a women's magazine, so that's why. But Jake [forgotten his surname, sorry, the trans man who married a trans woman recently, front page news, activists for Mermaids I believe] is featured prominently, despite being a trans man. His wife in fact doesn't say much...
In the "Ask Me This Instead" bit at the end, all of the trans women pretty much without exception say they want to be asked about their appearance or asked on a date .
It also made me think - almost all of us are subject to personal questions that are sometimes inappropriate. Will you have a baby/another baby, have you lost weight/put on weight, will you get married/how do you feel about your divorce? etc. All of these questions are only inappropriate if the person asking isn't in a position to be asking, iyswim - it's fine to discuss things with people you're close to but you don't want to educate Aunty Barbara on your DP's side about your innermost thoughts and feelings. Presume it is the same for everyone regardless of their sexual or gender identity!
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NoSquirrels · 20/05/2018 12:34
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