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A reminder why some women choose a female doctor - WARNING - shocking

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guardianfree Wed 13-Dec-17 13:49:39

This is a reminder why many women prefer to have a woman doctor or hcp.

The most vulnerable ill children in the country and he abused them 'in plain sight'. "One mother watched Bradbury slip his hand under her daughter's top without warning, but she did not want to question his professionalism"

Such a terrible story and of course, so many opportunities were missed to stop him earlier:

We must NEVER silence women (or anyone) about situations that make us feel uncomfortable, suspicions of abuse or practices that enable the minority to breach safeguarding protections - either for ourselves or for children.

WTAFisthisshit Wed 13-Dec-17 13:51:38

Quite! I've been thinking of this case. People think no-one would go to the trouble of filling in a form and putting on a dress to access vulnerable children? That sounds a damn sight easier to me than however many years this man spent at medical school.

hackmum Wed 13-Dec-17 15:40:32

God, that's grim.

People are so naive, though. There are plenty of cases like this. In an AIBU thread the other day someone said sarcastically that no man would bother to spend years training to be a gynaecologist just so he could sexually assault women.

Well, of course he bloody could. That's what they do.

expatinscotland Wed 13-Dec-17 15:44:33

' no man would bother to spend years training to be a gynaecologist just so he could sexually assault women.

Well, of course he bloody could. That's what they do.'

Exactly! Plenty of paedos chose professions that allow them to be privvy to their targets - teaching, coaching, youth leading, etc.- or select partners who have children they would like to target.

AsMenDclaredWomenTheirInferior Wed 13-Dec-17 17:03:09

I lived two doors away from my doctors surgery, so quite often if I needed to see the doctor I would go alone because from aged 12 my mother thought I was safe to visit them alone.
Anyway when I was aged 14 I went to the doctors with an infection in the never regions and the doctor was male and he checked me over and gave me a prescription and that was the end of it I thought but a few weeks later I went back to the same doctor with a different medical problem and the first thing he said to me was
"Can I just have a look at your knickers?
After that experience I have chosen never to have a male doctor again because you know, they are men, with the same sexual urges as any other men.
Nope I don't trust them and they have never given me any reason to trust them.

Wheelywheel Wed 13-Dec-17 17:07:54

Urgh, I hadn't heard of this sad
I would always choose a female doctor for personal examinations, or have a female chaperone.
It's not that I think all women are safe and all men are pervs waiting to strike...but the stats do tend to swing in the favour of women not being sexual predators. For now that is, not sure if it will stay that way with the way the law is changing.

Teufelsrad Wed 13-Dec-17 17:41:08

My practice has only female doctors(5 of them) which I'm very grateful for. I never have to worry about being made to feel uncomfortable and unsafe.The only time there might be a male doctor is when they require a locum.

They did have,at varying times, two excellent male doctors who were extremely professional and who I felt entirely comfortable with,but it's entirely understandable that some women may not feel comfortable with them either, and that should always be respected and accommodated.

Women should not have to justify their reasons but this is indeed an excellent example of why many refuse to see a male.

Teufelsrad Wed 13-Dec-17 17:46:54

4 not 5. Bloody Ipad.(We did have 5 not so long ago though).

highinthesky Wed 13-Dec-17 17:52:19

This is just dreadful. This chap can't feel a single human emotion other than his own selfiish needs.

PersianCatLady Wed 13-Dec-17 17:53:36

At my surgery there are younger female GPs and older male GPs.

I prefer to see the male GPs about most things as they seem to have more time to talk to me about things like when a drug was making me feel sick all the time.

However I still want a female GP or nurse (not the lovely male nurse who has been great) to carry out smears and the like.

If there was only a choice of penis havers to do the smear tests then I would not have one.

blueshoes Wed 13-Dec-17 17:58:32

Yes, I always ask for a female doctor for anything that could involve more intimate examinations. Exception being pregnancy/giving birth of course where you get what you are given.

I went for an insurance health check when I was in my twenties and I swear the doctor performed an unnecessary breast exam and got off on it. Ever since then, I have asked for female doctors. I would not hesitate to tell a doctor if I thought an examination was not needed or query why and if necessary, ask for a chaperone to be present.

MouseClogs Wed 13-Dec-17 17:58:36

The surgeon in my immediate family said he was firmly of the opinion - from decades of observation - that men who went into obs and gynae fell into two categories: those that had a genuine vocation and passion for helping women/reproductive medicine in general, and those that got off on women's vulnerability and "intimate" suffering. He said it (mercifully) wasn't quite a 50/50 split but the proportion of the latter was shall we say very sobering.

People saying nobody would choose the specialty for nefarious reasons are deeply, deeply naive.

blueshoes Wed 13-Dec-17 18:16:29

mouseclogs, so what is the proportion of the latter?

crackerjacket Wed 13-Dec-17 18:20:45

Lord above you just can't imagine this.

170, 000 from that pen!

Dozer Wed 13-Dec-17 18:22:25

Shitting hell, MouseClogs.

crackerjacket Wed 13-Dec-17 18:23:17

I remember when I was about 17 I went to see the doctor about something ridiculous like a bad knee. He asked me to take my top off which I did. Checked my glands, whatever.

I swear he was going to ask me to take my bra off but I gave him such a look, such a 'just you dare' look he didn't bother.

fucking muppet.

RogueBiscuit Wed 13-Dec-17 22:43:33

SonicBoomBoom Wed 13-Dec-17 22:57:55

Mouse, that's, I dunno, shocking but entirely believable I suppose.

guardianfree Wed 13-Dec-17 23:34:13

That's horrifying! So there are all these convicted paedophiles and child abusers still working in the NHS and the GMC are OK with that?

God I despair sometimes.

Allwashedup Wed 13-Dec-17 23:41:03

My DM has only recently told me that our family GP about 20-25 years ago always carried out an internal examination on her when she went to see him, even though her visits were nothing to do with intimate health and didn't need an internal examination. This pervert is now a high ranking person in the local health authority.

A GP I went to see a few years ago stood up and patted my bottom as I left his room at the end of my appointment.

misskelly Wed 13-Dec-17 23:50:56

I had a GP in my teens who would listen to your heart no matter what you went to see him for. He was really quite creepy and intimidating, so I didn’t dare question him. He would place both hands over my breast area and move about the stethoscope. I was a bit of a naive idiot and it was only in my twenties that the penny dropped as to what he was actually doing.

I’m mid 40’s now and having various gynie issues and two traumatic deliveries I really couldn’t face a male doctor. In fact, I go to my local sexual health clinic for smears and coil replacement as I know I will definitely get a female doctor.

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