Apologies for this message being badly articulated - I expect it will be as I'm not sure I can phrase it well.
I am continually enraged by attacks on women and girls. I find it difficult to know how to deal with this as I don't feel I can talk to friends about it (it's a difficult thing to keep discussing with them and I know it can't be easy for them if I keep sending them reports I've read of them to discuss). I've started threads about some on here but I can't keep doing that every time either; I'd be starting endless threads. Every time I read one, though, I can't stop thinking about the attack in question for a long time, the place it happened, what the woman or girl is going through, the chances of the attacker being found - if they're not that they're still out there, if they are the paltry sentences if convicted whilst the victim is affected for life, that, not to appropriate any suffering, they're attacks on all women and girls. I become angry that people don't see what an epidemic male violence against women and girls is, that people go on as if nothing happened, the lives altered and often ruined forever not worthy of much reporting nor any naming the major issue of this violence.
I think of myself and that no matter what I do, there are always men and boys out there who have such contempt for me for no other reason than I'm female, that I could be subject to such an attack at any time, that this would be my worth to them, that to society I'd be just another victim as everything carries on as if nothing happened. Every time I'm harassed on the street it reminds me of my worth, my value, that nothing I ever do will surpass this reminder of what I'm viewed as due to being female. My thoughts, ambitions, feelings are nothing to many men - they don't see or care about them. Sorry to make this sound self-centred, I don't mean it to. I also look at younger girls at school, particularly new Year 7s, see their enthusiasm and happiness, all their thoughts and confidence which comes through in the ones I interact with, they're so lovely to talk to and I become enraged at the misogyny they will face, not just the risk of male violence (although that is what brought me to feminism in the first place) but all the misogyny which for many of them may well dent their confidence, bring them down, upset them, gnaw away at them eroding their self-esteem as they grow up (of course this won't happen to all, just some of my feelings when I think about these things). I also confess to being sometimes envious of my brothers, I am very close to them and always have been but just knowing they will never know or experience so much which girls even of their age already have done (not that I'd want them to, just trying to articulate what I feel).
Anyway, sorry this was so long and rambling - I didn't intend to go on and expand my own topic like this. I got to this point and thought I shouldn't post this but I'd written all this so may as well. I've vented at least even if there's nothing anyone can say on it, was just wondering how women on here might advise coping with all this. Sorry it's so self-centred too, I don't mean it to be, I feel this rage because of all women and girls especially those who have suffered and will suffer male violence.
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NoLoveofMine · 05/10/2017 21:43
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