So I was walking to an appointment this morning and a man (he looked about 20) pulled his car up beside me and said "hello". I looked at him and smiled, but didn't reply as I didn't want to speak to him and started walking away at a quicker pace. He then began to follow me, in his car, driving really slowly next to me saying things like "you are beautiful" and asking me questions about where I was going etc. I responded to some of his remarks with "thank you" and also "no thank you, I am in a rush" but he would not leave me alone. I found it really intimidating. I wanted to tell him to fuck off but I have been in situations like this before which have turned agressive and I really didn't want this to happen. It was only when he asked me if I have a boyfriend (we were at a main road by this point as well and someone else was walking towards me) and I replied "I'm married" that he drove away.
This really, really annoyed me for many different reasons.
a) What do people like this think is actually going to happen? Did he think if he kept pestering me I would give in, engage in conversation which would lead to me getting in his car, for example? Are they bored and find it funny? Surely they realise it is intimidating to do this to someone and therefore not nice.
b) Situations like these NEVER happen when I go out in my hoodie and tracksuit bottoms or with my hair just washed and wet. Today, I was wearing a dress (not short - to my knee). Why do these men believe that if we have put on a dress, skirt or makeup it is then their right to behave in these ridiculous ways?
Sorry for the rant; it just really annoyed me!
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This man really annoyed me today
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willowtreeonfire · 23/08/2016 12:23
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