And when I say "same", I mean sexually freeing, for want of a better term.
My mate has just come back from Oz where he's been living for the past year whilst also trying to fulfil his dream of being a writer specialising in gay sexuality/applying to do a PhD in gay sexuality in literature. The last few months he's been banging on about PrEP on Facebook. It's a drug which prevents the spread of HIV between partners, which I think everyone can agree is amazing and a Very Good Thing.
We were discussing this and he was saying that a frequent (but not only) sexual partner of his had been on a program which was running in Oz- one of the reasons he'd been writing so much about the drug. Said fella didn't have a partner with HIV or anything, the point of him taking it was so he could remove the anxiety about sleeping with different people (strangers) regularly.
Now at this point I was like, "OK, dead on, but what I'd worry about if that became widespread is that people wouldn't use condoms as much as they do now and we'd see an increase in other sexual diseases". Then my friend said, "Well, I don't think anyone would say that women shouldn't go on the pill just because they might catch an STD".
At this point I was just thinking, "are you seriously comparing the first thing that really gave women autonomy over their own bodies to a drug which means you don't have to worry if you have a question mark over your next sexual partner?". It left me with a bit of a sour taste in my mouth. The fact that women were so frequently trapped or endangered by pregnancy before the pill just seemed completely at odds with the threat of HIV infection in 2015 with reducing infection rates, easily accessible testing and condom use.
But now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable, and whether I'm 'just' being judgemental because I don't think it's sensible to pump your body with a serious drug so you worry less about having unprotected sex with strangers. And fwiw, this friend and aforementioned fella managed to pass gonorrhoea between the two of them because they'd dispensed with condoms due to one of them being on PrEP. DFriend also says he doesn't give bj's with condoms because "ew", and it's apparently a low risk activity.
So aibu to be shirty about this?
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My Gay friend thinks PrEP is the equivalent of the pill; aibu to think, "eh, no."
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TheCraicDealer · 22/12/2015 20:21
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