Can I ever agree, rationalise some of the common held beliefs here, when much I read is alien to me ?
Much of this place appears to be about patriarchy, the evils men perpertrate against women and children, if we change them and focus on them we have won. Women behaving badly appears to be dismissed, minor in comparison .... .
Growing up my siblings and I were subjected to both physical and mental abuse from my mother, she often went into extreme rages. Up until the age of 15 she had endured years of physical and mental abuse at the hands of her stepmother. Her father turned a blind eye, mine worked away so was unaware of what happened. She had a half sister who went out of her way to make sure my mother would always get the blame and be punished, my sister did the same to me.
Whilst I feel totally empowered when it comes to men (the posts I've read where women haven't spoken out when men are being totally vile raise a smile as I'll give any man as good as I get and more) but dealing with aggressive women has been a problem and over time I've had instances of bullying.
Many years ago I started a new job, new building, new large businesss, became a great team we were a great team. It was actually joy to go to work. A new female member of staff joined, took a dislike to me, tried as much as possible to intimidate and cause a bad atmosphere. I was due to leave due to personal circumstances, so it was no big deal but I would have been driven away eventually.
Now and again I will point out "What about the women ?" and get shot down in flames, or dismissed as a troll, or worse called a man. I just sit on another side of the fence and feel as important as it is to try and change men, it's equally important to acknowledge, and understand some the the vile behaviour women use in order to make fellow women feel bad about themselves and their opinions. I had a lovely job, was happy, it wasn't a man spoilt it and I don't think I'm the only woman to be adversly affected by the actions of other women.
Sorry for the ramble.
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MsAnnTeak · 24/04/2012 22:11
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