In April, my 18 year old niece ended her 3 year relationship with her fiancee. Obviously, it was hard for both of them, but she's trying her hardest to move on.
The problem is, since the split he's become psychologically abusive. Her younger sister has taken his side, and thus been kicked out of the house by my sister. So far, he's messaged her and phoned her, harrassing her enough for her to change her number 3 times. The last time, he got her number after her younger sister phoned her off his phone. He then informed my niece 1 that he was going to get some girls to beat her up when she was out. (so far, not happened, thank god).
However, a couple of weeks ago, things got worse. One evening, he smashed into her stepfather's car, and then tried to break into her bedroom. The police gave him a caution, and told him he's to stay away from my niece. He then logged onto his younger brother's facebook account, and left abusive messages on her facebook wall, but then deleted them after her brother pointed out she "now had evidence, and thanks for that". By the time my niece got to the computer, the messages had been deleted.
Last Friday, my niece bought her fist ever car. To say she was over the moon about it was an understatement. I think she spent most of Saturday just driving about. However, Sunday morning , she got woken up by her brother cursing (about 6:30 am, as he was on the way to work) Someone had spray painted graffiti over her car. She suspected it was him, and later found out he'd been bragging about it, so reported it to the police. However, when they arrested him yesterday afternoon, they released him, and then left a message on his sister's page saying "No further action, you dumb fuck, shove that up your arse!"
Needless to say, my niece is terrified. I'm finding it hard to offer her logical advice at the moment, but she's beside herself, and scared it won't stop. Does anyone have any advice at all on how to deal with this? How to help her? Or does anyone have any advice for her, please?
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DontCallMePeanut · 13/07/2011 10:01
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