Am mum of 4 year old boy and I am right now very confused and I need some advice. Me and my hysband decided to split up because of constant arguing and fighting which affecting our son. We just can't agree on anything fundamental how to bring up your boy. We just can't look at each other and be around each other without arguing. We tried everything to stay together for your boy but its not working anymore and it's really taking its toll on him. I just don't know what's better us splitting and him being through all divorce or him living in toxic family. Please help don't know what to do am really desperate. Thanks for any advice.
My parents stayed together & were miserable. Eventually they split & are both happier for it. I wish they'd split sooner & I'd have had 2 separate but happy parents instead of 2 miserable but together parents.
It can sometimes be helpful to try and think what your little boy is observing when he hears and sees the interactions between his two parents. What he experiences now can largely form his blueprint for how he may run his own relationships when he is an adult. In instances such as you describe it can be really valuable to get professional support, so you could try Relate. www.relate.org.uk to find your nearest centre, where you can attend either individually or as a couple. Or they offer phone and e mail counselling. Hope that helps