I can't do it.

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Wilberforce1 Mon 18-May-20 17:07:21

I went into Lockdown fat and determined I was going to come out of it a better slimmer woman but I'm just as fat as ever. I'm fat enough that catching the virus worries me and I need to lose weight ASAP but I can't fucking do it.

I've tried Joe Wicks and various online workouts, I've tried couch to 5K but hated running on the road because I hate people looking at me and a woman standing at a bus stop clapped me and told me to keep going which made me feel like shit and like I was doing it for some kind of joke. So my husband said we could hire a treadmill, managed by some miracle to get one that was being delivered today so I've spent the whole weekend telling myself this is it, I'm going to start jogging on the treadmill in the comfort of my own home and it's going to be amazing. Treadmill turned up, delivery man plugged it in and it went bang! Had a message from him (he took it back to the office) it's knackered and he doesn't have anymore in stock so that's that over. I'm actually so fed up that I cried for an hour and then I've eaten my way through the house, so many chocolate and crisps that I've got a stomach ache. I feel like shit, I have no willpower and the slightest thing to go wrong sends me running for the snack cupboard.

How do people do it? Where do they get their willpower from? I'm so fed up with myself. Food is my biggest problem, I can't stop eating.

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SorryDidISayThatOutLoud Mon 18-May-20 17:12:30

I can only say what's worked for me of course. I know that if I want to not eat something, I can't have it in the house. So I stopped buying chocolate and biscuits.
I have respiratory issues so I cannot exercise or do anything cardio - even a walk tires me out. What worked for me was when I went to a salon about a year ago and used one of what I called 'wobble boards'. I noticed a difference after ten sessions which encouraged me and I got my own for home. It's called Vibrapower and I saw them advertised this week so they are still being sold, although probably more advanced than mine now!

Wilberforce1 Mon 18-May-20 17:17:05

I have an 11 and a 6 year old so the snack cupboard probably can't go anywhere, it's not like they snack all day but they will have crisps chocolate (penguins, small Kit Kat's etc) with lunch or a pudding after dinner. Haven't heard of the vibra plates but I'll have a look, husband was ok about getting a treadmill though as he would use it not sure he would use any other equipment.

It's my eating I need to address, I wake up with good intentions and then think sod it and eat whatever I can find.

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HattieMid2 Mon 18-May-20 17:18:02

First of all - exercise makes hardly any difference when it comes to weight loss. I've been there. Punished myself with exercise but never sorted my eating out and got absolutely nowhere. So maybe stop fixating on exercise.

Just tackle one thing at a time. Something that has worked for me is filling half my plate with veg before anything else. Really helped cut calories down and still had nice meals.

Stop beating yourself up. It's not easy but it's doable if you take baby steps!

whensmynexthol1day Mon 18-May-20 17:18:56

It sounds like you do really want to lose weight which is a really good start- being determined is important. You also sound like you have a really supportive husband which helps too!

I think it's good that you also want to get fitter, but this ultimately won't make much difference to your weight loss. I've always understood that weight loss is 80% diet and 20% exercise so don't let lack of exercise equipment put you off!

What works for me is to really understand what I am eating- so get a tracking app like my fitness pal and log everything you eat. This is likely to be a bit of a shock into making healthier choices going forward. Then move onto being proactive and plan what you are going to eat in advance. This helps you not to slip extra things in during the day.

You can work out what calories you should be eating daily by using a tdee calculator (just google!) . Roughly 3600kcal deficit = 1lb loss per week which equates to 500kcal a day so just take 500 from your tdee.

I also find I have to reduce carbs to get a decent loss, so I try and stick to less than 50g a day but everyone's different!

Good luck- you can do it!

RockKnobster Mon 18-May-20 17:19:15

The exercise, though of course good for you, won't put a dent in the weight loss whatsoever if the eating stays the same.

You need to get the MFP or Fitbit app, and count calories. Calorie deficit is the only way.

I need to stay under 1400 a day to not gain weight, so I log everything. It works. Taking in less calories is the only thing that will ever work.

BuffaloCauliflower Mon 18-May-20 17:21:37

What you eat is vastly more important than exercise for weight loss. Exercise is great for fitness which I’m not knocking but the food is the important bit. You can’t out-train a bad diet.

Have a look at the Blood Sugar Diet/Fast 800. Easy to read books and great support thread here. I lost a stone in about a month, no exercise, didn’t put it back on. It works fast and that’s motivating, which it sounds like is what you need right now. You CAN do this, it’s just finding the method that works for you.


CookPassBabtridge Mon 18-May-20 17:37:08

Agree that it's all about what goes in your mouth, I lost 8 stone just walking the school run every day. I hate exercise grin

Idododoidadada Mon 18-May-20 20:52:38

I lost 2 stone with no exercise at all (health issues)

Work out your tdee -the amount of calories you need to eat in a day to stay the same weight. To lose weight you need to reduce the amount of calories by 20%. The 2000 calories a day is only for a young, fit active woman so many women are overeating.


Log everything you consume, weigh everything and input it into My Fitness Pal. The realisation of how many calories are in things is life changing. Some sandwiches have more calories than a portion controlled roast dinner!

If you have 90 calories left of your daily total you could choose to have a banana OR a chocolate digestive, weight wise it doesn’t matter which one you choose. If you ate 2 bananas it would be healthy but you still would have gone over your calories so wouldn’t be in calorie deficit. Logging everything and understanding the calories means you can make better choices. A calorific piece of cake that will mean you are hungry in an hour or a homemade soup, small roll followed by a small full fat yogurt and an apple which will keep you full all afternoon?

Weight loss is calories in V calories out. It doesn’t matter how much you exercise if you are still eating/drinking too many calories. If you have a blip one day, have a bit less over the next couple of days.

I still have wine, chocolate, crisps-I just stick to my calories.....mostly!

I wake up with good intentions and then think sod it and eat whatever I can find
See I still have days when I do this. I just don’t do it every day and if I have done it I still log it all blush then, the next few days, eat fewer than my target calories to make up for it. It’s swings and roundabouts.

You CAN do it.

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