Weight loss journey I need tips!

[Bluebell121]

Hey everyone , I am 23 weighed 16st after having second child been trying for 4 weeks Monday to loose weight with completley cutting snacks , pop and carbs out I lost 7lb in 5 days from going to the gym every day I am not 15st 7lb , I've had a week off due to there been a very bad storm where I live then to top that off lady season came in so I went off rails and ate crap because of the cravings 😭 , getting back at it strict and hard on Monday I need to be at least 13st by summer time , last summer I sat in jumpers I didn't go out with my partner or kids because I thought he would be embarrassed walking next to me or see other girls dressed lovely and skinny and just see I'm fat and horrible , I cannot seem to loose my baby belly and it's depressing me I've felt suicidal and it's not nice to feel like that when you've got the best things god could of gave you! My children but I need to feel better in my self but when I have depression day I have no motivation I don't like speaking to anyone or been near anyone it's so hard when you have kids to go to the gym I normally go night time so I get a better sleep as I have anxiety ocd intrusive thoughts I have horrid nightmares and thoughts that someone going to hurt my kids or somethjng going to happen so partner watches kids when there in bed so I can go and go straight to slee when I'm home , I need tips all I've ate is chicken broccoli and rice I don't no anything else to get to eat that's not going to ruin my pocket of money😯 I also have a holiday in August I cannot be like this it's going to kill me one day.

[StarlyBeee]

Hi sweetheart
So I was unhappy for years always complained as saw thin people as more attractive well anyone but myself really.. I set myself small goals don't stop everything at once otherwise you will more likely fail and be miserable and life's to short :)

I managed to get into size 8 in 6 months by eating as much protein and veg as I like... so if I wanted lamb I would have loads of brocolli and what ever but would treat myself with a spoonful of gravel and a Yorkie pud..

For lunch I would have half a chicken so I'm full but just protein and then towards the end when I was just skinny I joined a gym and that's where I found happiness in myself I never thought I would enjoy the gym but just popped my ear phones in and went in each time and did a set work out that I enjoyed :) I then become alot happier in everything else around me my marriage has improved my job and just life in general!

So long story short - don't restrict yourself into misery :) one step at a time

[StarlyBeee]

Haha gravel don't be eating that.. try it with Gravy

[Bluebell121]

That sounds great!! I was having chicken breast with a hand full of rice and veg then for snacks ide have fruit and fat free or dinner I would have chicken tikka pieces lettuce and cucumber in a weight watchers wrap I just got bored of the meals so I stopped eating all together! I'm such a fussy eater it's so hard to find foods I tried meal prep but I have ocd and I don't like when meats been in the fridge that's been cooked I drink a lot of water and I'm at gym 5 days a week , I hope I can get to my weight what I want because infeel dreadful some days I don't want to be here anymore and I know it sounds so stupid but it's how I feel because I don't feel attractive I don't have any nice clothes Cos there all big and makes me look massive i hate myself x

[FATEdestiny]

Have you seen your doctor about your mental health issues? It sounds like you might be able to gain more control of your diet if your OCD and intrusive thoughts are controlled. It doesn't sound like they are at the moment.

[Bluebell121]

I have seen doctors currently been put on the highest dose of my tablets , there really out of control I don't feel like I'm getting help from them at all rbh😓

[SERT94]

@Bluebell121 really sorry to hear about how you've been struggling with your weight and the negative effects it's having on your physical and mental health

Firstly, congrats on losing your first 7lbs that's great please keep that as reassurance that you can reach your goal and get back to feeling confident and happy in your body, you just need a little guidance and to make some slight tweaks!

Are you currently doing anything to track your food?

[Bluebell121]

Hi @SERT94 I use the app " my fitness pal" I calorie count everytime and I also scan my food onto this app it's absolutly great! I think I've gone off rails due to randomly going to the gym for the first time and completly cutting everything out carbs snacks pop and it's overtaken me and with me coming on my period it's made me crave so bad that I haven't been able to bypass the cravings like I did before I came on I ignored the cravings and did brilliantly!

[bugbhaer]

I think you’re on a diet that you’re set up to fail.

May I recommend either the Four Pillar Plan (a book, very practical and gentle) or Nerd Fitness (free and a more serious diet/gym plan).

[SERT94]

@Bluebell121 My advice would be not to bother with radical changes to your eating.

The best diet is the one you can (and do) stick to!!

So if carbs help you enjoy your food and stay sane then keep carbs... just try to make 'sensible' eating choices

A good place to start is adding lean protein sources to each meal, adding a portion of colour fruit or veg to each meal and try to minimise the calories you take in liquid form (these will leave you feeling hungrier sooner)

If your using MFP they'll have calculated some rough calorie target for you (not the best but a good starting point) try moulding your normal eating to this target calorie number while make better food choices like the ones mentioned

Oh and don't forget water! It's really important to stay adequately hydrated throughout the day!