An opening came up at my local church for the weekend of mine and DP's 10-year anniversary this year (June 15th). We were supposed to be having a party at my parent's house anyway with some family and friends; kind of to celebrate an engagement/anniversary/both of our 25th birthdays. It's 8 weeks on Saturday. And I just bloody booked it. It seemed like too much of a coincidence not to.
I rang DP at work, he said to go for it, but he won't be home until 11pm tonight and I'm freaking myself out. I think we're going to have to go on a ringing spree over the weekend to invite anyone else we want there.
Where do I start? What do I do? I feel like I'm already wasting so much time. Oh GOD. Why have I done this? It is such a ME thing to do.
Any advice? Anyone done anything similar? Anyone want to comfort me?
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Is it possible to plan a wedding in 8 weeks?
weddingplannc · 17/04/2019 17:56
Yep, I planned my wedding for over 100 people in 5 weeks!
Email invitations (paperlesspost are good). Spend a day ringing round photographers, florists, caterers etc and get all that booked first. Once all the big stuff is in place you can enjoy choosing your dress etc without stressing too much over the other details.
Oh and don’t get hung up on a colour theme. I went for all pretty pale whites, creams, blush etc so it looked lovely together but didn’t matter that it wasn’t perfectly matched.
Good luck and enjoy 
Marquees - think outside the box. There's your usual event suppliers but also consider asking charities and other organisations that may have their own for events if you can borrow their in return for a donation to the organisation - eg bowls, cricket, rowing and golf clubs, scouts/guides - putting the word out can have surprising results. And people actually love to help. Just be sure to remind your fiancé to thank them in his speech too.
Making dresses I don't think you have time to be honest it's a big commitment and most people aren't used to working with the fabrics involved which are very difficult to work with and difficult to repair. It's extremely physically demanding work and very hard on the eyes which can result in major headaches. Personally I'd recommend boutique or high street. Remember too if you buy dresses on the high street you can still take to a bridal seamstress (I wouldn't use a normal high street seamstress) to alter either for size or to change a styling element. They won't care you bought on the high street and they can be extremely talented at how much they can change a dress. I've been completely amazed at how they've been able to change eg a princess Diana style meringue into a strapless modern elegant gown. Straps and sleeves and necklines and length can all be altered. Usually too if you find a dress you like it can be taken in by a good seamstress by up to 3 a sizes, letting out is trickier as you can't magic fabric out of thin air. So if you find a dress that you like but it's too big don't write it off immediately. You may even find a dress that's supposedly a bridesmaid dress but is in a colour that you like/is bridal and would suit. So be open minded.
Also traditional wedding gowns aren't a style we regularly wear so we don't necessarily know what will suit us - that's another good reason to head to boutiques to try the different styles on. As a bride I was very slim at the time and column dresses were "in" and I got my mind set on that style - but I'm also only 5'2" and when i actually tried them on realised I basically looked like I was trying to be invisible! I've since worked in the industry (could you guess?
) and many brides have set out with an idea of a style they like or thought would suit they're figure only to struggle to find a dress they liked/suited them. I was able on several occasions to persuade them to try a style that from experience I knew would suit their figure and personal style, they were often unsure at first...and then when they tried them on - perfect! So many times I heard "I would never have thought of trying that style" when it turned out to be really flattering on them. Sorry I'm waffling on but I LOVED that job it was so much fun. I loved helping couples make their wedding day just right for them.
Boutiques also have pedestals so you can see how the skirt falls properly (samples/dresses are originally made to fit very tall ladies as obviously it's easier to shorten a dress) and plenty of full length mirrors so you can see from all angles. Plus you can try on with various accessories usually too - shoes, veils, tiaras etc
Keep detailed accurate notes (I cocked up on the transport and noted one companies name against another's phone number and almost lost my booking as a result. It was only thanks to my lovely mum's excellent negotiation skills it was saved)
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