I am absolutely terrified about my wedding in 16 days so can someone please tell me all the amazing things about a wedding day and being married?

[BirthdayKake]

Thanks!

[CaptainCallisto]

Are you terrified of the wedding day itself, or actually being married?

I was very anxious about my wedding day. I hate being the centre of attention, and the idea of all the photos etc took on this whole nightmare scenario in my mind! I was also convinced everything was going to go wrong, and that DH's family (some of whom I hadn't met properly) would hate me.

It turned out to be the most amazing day! I've never felt so relaxed. Even when stuff did go wrong I just wasn't phased. It was great to see all my family and friends, and I have some wonderful memories - mostly about silly things.

If it's just the actual wedding day that's worrying you then try to think of it as a means to an end. I got to the point where I didn't care as long as I ended up married to DH! Your wedding is just one day; your marriage is the important part. Is there any one thing that's worrying you about the wedding? Or is it the whole day?

[middleagedalready]

The wedding day and being married are two totally different things. If you are terrified of being married don't get married.
If you don't want to be the centre of attention on your wedding day then try not to stress, I'm not a fan of this usually but enjoyed my wedding day a huge amount.
It's hard to say more without knowing a bit more about your situation.

[sar302]

I had a near panic attack on the morning of my wedding, even though I was ready an totally sure.

The whole day is a blur, but I have two memories.

1. Seeing my husband as they opened the door so I could walk into the room.
   
   
2. My husband and I sitting on the grass verge outside our hotel at Heathrow that evening. It was drizzling slightly but warm. All the cars were zooming past on the way to the airport. We bought cigarettes which hadn't done in forever. And smoked. And sat there repeating "Holy shit, we're married."
   
   Marrying him was the best decision I ever made. I probably wouldn't bother with a full on wedding if I could go back in time tbh, but I'd marry him every day of the week.
   
   Only you know if it's nerves or your gut telling you something is truly wrong. Marriage is work - especially when life throws crap at you - but it's worth it with the right person.
   
   Good luck

[userabcname]

I thoroughly enjoyed my wedding - it's lovely to see extended family and friends, I enjoyed having a fuss made of me and it went by quickly but enjoyably. Stand out moments for me were the best man's speech which was hilarious and so well done, DH cracking me up during the first dance so the photos are lovely as we are properly laughing (not forced smiles and rigid gazes!) and us going up to our room at about 1am but being too excited to sleep so opening all our cards and presents then and there! We were like children on christmas eve! I love being married, we are a real family now, especially with the birth of our son, and it's like living with my best friend really - he always has my back and we can totally be ourselves/relax with each other. Try not to worry about the wedding and enjoy!

[paap1975]

I would have my wedding again in a heartbeat. It was a beautiful day with the people we love and it just flew by. All my worries just evaporated. As for being married, it's awesome. Good luck!

[Ididnothearthat]

We were both nervous as big day. My husband more so as to be fair to him he wanted a small wedding but our families are huge and then we wanted our friends there. We had the best day ever! And my husband said he would go back and choose it again if we had to.
If it's about being married then you need to think why but if it's just the wedding day it's probably nerves etc.
Take some time to step back together and watch everyone all your friends and family there to celebrate your love.

[Doobigetta]

I had no idea how much I would enjoy the actual ceremony part of my wedding, but it was easily, far and away the best half hour of my life. You're so lucky to have that to look forward to!

[Margueritte]

I was so scared of my wedding. Scared of no one turning up, and if sonny my way through the vows, mainly.

In the end, I had the most fabulous day. Nothing I worried about happened, and I enjoyed every moment of it.

It was a few months ago now and I'm just getting round to sorting the photos which is lovely, because it's reminding me of the fabulous day.

Op - it will be fine. Promise!

[Margueritte]

• of sobbing my way through the vows!

[JontyDoggle37]

At the end of my wedding day, my face hurt so much, because of how much I smiled and smiled all day.

[CherryPavlova]

Gosh it feels like a long time ago. It poured down. My husband got my names wrong. The in laws were late..... but it was such fun. Huge, huge fun.
Despite the odd grump, being married is fabulous too. It’s not always easy. It’s not always fun but there is deep satisfaction in knowing the person you married loves you until you die and would willingly lay down their life for you. The nice touches that keep the sparks alive. Tea in bd every morning. Not having any secrets or need to hide anything. Total trust is a good feeling - but hard work too.

[BirthdayKake]

Thank you everyone!

I got married in 2014 and really looked forward to it and despite my anxiety, it was an amazing day and I was proud of how confident I was. Then he left 16 months later, leaving me with four children, so I think that is sub consciously tainting this for me!

If I picture my wedding (two weeks today!) as just me, DP and the kids, I'm a lot more excited about it. So I don't think I'm scared of marrying him - just the ceremony/reception part.

I haven't got any family coming but I do have a few friends. My 9yo will be walking me down the aisle.

How the hell do you keep calm when you're walking into the church?

What if I start burning up at the altar?!

How do you walk with a wedding dress on?

[littledinosaurs]

How did it go OP?! Mines next year and I'm terrified of the actual day too (not being married).