Hire a Maid of Honour?

[IzzySunflower]

I saw an article the other day about the woman in New York who is a professional Maid of Honour, and after looking into it a bit more I have seen that there is also one in London, but I don't think there are many more around the UK.

I'm thinking that I would also be really good at this, but just wondering what you ladies think? Would you pay extra for an 'undercover maid of honour'? I would help organise everything, and on the day could be there discreetly ensuring that everything is going to plan.

I've seen quite a few threads on here about people either being a fed up Maid of Honour, or brides having problems with theirs, and I think it would be quite a popular idea, but I would be very grateful for your feedback! Thank you!

[Rioja123]

No. Why would you want a random in all your wedding pictures?

[WithCheesePlease]

If you want that, just hire a wedding planner, rather than an 'undercover' maid of honor

[Crispsheets]

Ridiculous.

[TheAntiBoop]

Well it depends on your priorities I suppose

Find it odd you would have a stranger in that role rather than just employ a wedding planner.

[Wolfiefan]

I managed with no bridesmaids and no maid of honour. What on earth are they paying for? If I want a wedding planner I would get one. I don't need someone pretending to be my friend?!

[CaulkheadUpNorf]

Hahaha. If you have to hire someone to be your maid of honour/head bridesmaid then you probably need new friends.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Why not a wedding planner?

[ScarlettFreestone]

I'm not sure how you would explain that to your family or friends.

[TheAntiBoop]

I think it says more about the ridiculously high expectations brides have of their friends

Amazing the number of brides who complain their bridesmaids aren't doing enough/what they're told. They seem to forget they are guests, not servants

[theredjellybean]

Izzy...i read that article and thought...gosh what a lovely job...but yes it is rather like being a wedding planner..maybe set up a service where by you offer wedding planning with a personal touch...i.e. 'i will do everything the most perfect maid of honour would do bar walk down the aisle behind you'
in the end that is what brides, especially i should imagine nowadays whit brides paying for the wedding often and being busy with jobs etc, i would still want my bff supporting me in the pretty dress behind me but i would want someone else completely and utterly dedicated to making me have the best day and have every little niggle taken care of for me .
brilliant idea

[theredjellybean]

maybe you could describe yourself as ' a bridal PA '

i agree with other posters about brides wanting bridesmaids to do loads and be there for every little thing...the bridesmaids have jobs/families etc of their own...

it is different now ( go i sound so old..am very early 50's) ..when i got married ( very young aged 21) my parents paid for everything, they organised everything it was really their 'do'...i chose a dress ( with my mother and bridesmaid) , the bridesmaids chose their dresses and on the day they helped me get dressed and followed me...no big drama...but i guess if i was spending thousands of my own money and was organizing everything then maybe i would have expected my friends to step up and help a lot more...definitely can see the place for a paid bridal personal assistant...

[IzzySunflower]

Thanks everyone, that is really helpful. If anyone is interested this is the article - www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a52382/how-i-became-a-bridesmaid-for-hire/

I think you are right redjellybean, I could do the same thing but just promote it as wedding planning with the personal touch. I don't think Yorkshire is ready for hiring a maid of honour! Thanks so much for your advise! Much appreciated!!

[TheAntiBoop]

A really useful job you could do is mediate between the bride and her bridesmaids

The number of times we read about brides picking horrible outfits/expensive hen do etc etc and the friends don't feel they can say anything. If there was a neutral third party that would be good!!

[hollyisalovelyname]

It's really sad that someone would have to hire a bridesmaid.
That they have no siblings, cousins or friends they could ask.
There is real loneliness out there.