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expensive & time-consuming wedding and pre-wedding shenanigans

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sphinxster · 29/05/2017 19:44

Friends are getting married in the wife-to-be's parents' home country which is a long haul flight. It's a lovely country and we're going for a couple of weeks for all the pre-wedding build up they've scheduled. It's very exciting and we're very happy for them.

They've now sent out their "save the date" for the hen & stag parties. The hen party is in the Middle East and the stag party is in a European city. We have two young children. We can't afford all of these flights/hotels/annual leave. Our apologies have been met with people offering suggestions for childcare, links to cheaper flights, disappointment in us, etc etc ...

I'm just having a rant, we're not going to the hen & stag. We're spending enough time and money going to the wedding. If we had spare cash and annual leave I'd prefer a family holiday. My days of drinking games in the midday sun in a bikini are well and truly over. I just feel it's a bit much to expect from people and just accept it when people decline.

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hahahaIdontgetit · 29/05/2017 19:47

It's up to the bride and groom what they want, but if you've refused the invitation then I have no idea why they would think it was appropriate to question you further.

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sphinxster · 29/05/2017 19:51

Exactly, haha I just wanted a rant that the B&G know its impossible for us to attend so there's no need to make us feel bad about it. Or make us feel bad for not wanting a piss up over a getaway with our young children.

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sphinxster · 29/05/2017 19:53

Bah humbug

If I was going to do anything on a weekend away from the children, it'd be sleep! I'd pack only pyjamas.

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