We have planned a wedding for July next year. A largeish affair 120 for day 160 for evening. Church ceremony, reception in a hotel in Surrey close to where we live. Numbers high due to DPs very large family and equally large group of friends he is 10 years older and lived all over the uk. Most of his friends and family would be travelling from Scotland and also some from Australia and Canada.. we chose the more expensive option of hotel to make sure location was easy to get to and accommodation was easy for all who are travelling. (All my family and friends are London/Surrey based) We have now discovered we are expecting a baby in January. For me this changes everything. I don't want to spend all my savings on a wedding when we have a baby on the way, and I won't have much money coming in on maternity so they won't be easily replaced. We are also renting and I'd rather put my savings into a deposit on a house. Dp would be contributing money too but he has only a 1/3 of what I do saved so it would be mostly me paying. I still REALLY want to get married but think we should make it a small ceremony/reception with a large party at another time. If I had just my direct family and very best friends it would be around 15 people he says he can't get his guest numbers down to anything like that.. He agrees have a small wedding and have a party or possibly 2 one in England one in Scotland but doesn't have any suggestion as to how we organise it or how he chooses who to invite to ceremony or indeed any suggestions at all. He says just family then no one gets offended but I want my closest friends there. He says then all of his would be missing out.. we seem to be going around in circles and not getting anywhere fast. Does anyone have any advice or bright ideas? Apologies for long rambling post and thanks for reading.
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