Hi all
I have recently began having lessons again. I used to have my own horses when DD was small before DS1 came along, Rode western after DS1 before DS3.
I neglected my english riding during that period too. Only rode english once during the those two years. On an unschooled trotter. Which i reverted into some sort of strange would be western seat (It was horrific, every laughed, even me, i looked shit).
Anyway, I found a lovely RS. They have a decent range of horses, all sane and safe. I've been riding a nice TB for my lessons.
First lesson was positive, although i confused the poor horse as my signals were all over the place, fidgeting with the shorter stirrups compared to the western seat, wanting to sort of drop the reins constantly (Not sure how else to word that one). But he put up with me haha, got a bit better by the end of the lesson. Instructor is very good and patient.
Very confident following this, and have stopped confusing him so much getting back into the swing of english riding. Still struggling a bit wrt stirrup length - One minute i want them longer, next thats too long and i want them back. I guess that will come in time.
Anyway this week, I had an absolute shitter of a week. The agent for the house we wanted to rent found out the landlord hadnt been paying his mortgage. Refunded my application fees etc. But was still annoying. Had a huge argument with the health visitor and asked her not to return - whole other thread and topic.
Was totally not in the right frame of mind and i really annoyed the poor horse. He's not a typical RS kick along. He's actually quite well schooled. Was fine walk and trot, went to canter, had a slight 'wtf' moment for some random reason, felt unbalanced, totally had a meltdown, which made things worse, horse got a bit jumpy. Riding instructor was brilliant and didn't push me as she could see i was really getting nervy. Finished on a good note doing some circling in trot, collecting him up a little bit.
Don't think having my son there helped tBH (He is off for easter) either and just made me more tense.
So, does anyone have any tips for relaxation if i'm tense like this again? I feel it was contributing because i lost my balance/seat/rhytem etc the first few times back in the saddle and didnt meltdown like this. I want to arrive with a more positive attitude no matter what sort of week i'm having elsewhere in my life.
I also leant forward as soon as horse got a bit jumpy - Which i haven't done for years and i really disappointed myself with as it used to be such a bad habit for me that took me ages to get out of when i was a teen after an accident.
Next lesson is on thursday and i can already feel myself panicking over a repeat. My other half is off work on thursday though so i am thinking of asking begging my mum to give me a lift and leave DS1 at home (DS 2 is 5 months and always comes with no problems, he usually sleeps through it).
TIA
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FlockOfTwats · 12/04/2014 23:05
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