Hi ALL- you have all been so supportive during my first few weeks of pony ownership.thankyou.
i have started to read more and to develop as much confidence as i can muster,but i am struggling.to be confidenct.have always wanted my own horse and when i actualy got one after the honeymoon period i started to think i cant manage her. i need to sell her... so got stressed.. and therefore wasnt getting much pleasure.. and thought i may have to sell her as it wasnt worth the stress my dh was saying its a money pit and what is the point..!!which i was struggling to see myself.and i got into a negative loop.
.Ive managed to steady myself a bit as i realise ive not given myself or her time.It hasnt helped as prev owner has asked to buy her back and is offering to take her this week.
So, in the bid to raise my confidence, i would really love to hear re two catagories of things things if anyone has the time.
1.is it usuall to feel really stressed when you ist get a horse even tho its a dream.ive felt similar feelings to when i ist got a baby.cant think about anything else.!!also ive been ridicloulsly upset if she has tried to nip me .what the hell is that about.i was thinking she does nt like me and feeling all wounded.blush- sorry what a wimp.I undestand she may pick up on those feelings and i try to hid em when at stable.!!Also im struggling to justify the cost- ie my family coul have a good holiday ,more security if i didnt have her blah blah.freaking myself out over money- guilt trip.
2.how to promote a horses well being. I really want to look after her properly
.By this i mean firstly basic care needs.....do they suffer with certian things or dislike them - some perople have told me they dont like bring out in combo of rain wind cold - and said would you like it inthose conditions??-im unsure if all horses are differnt and some mind those sconditions and some dont for eg.i must admit my pony seems to love to come instable at night - i dont know how to tell if its her hailage she wants ,its the routine she understands or simply she does like it for eg.how do you tell these things??my pony does stand by gate at end of a turn out day-is it routine or does she not like it...etc.
second -how to spot problems.- i wd imagine this wd mean changes in behevoir ?.i have picked up that heat in leg or hoof bad.noticed her lying in field y day was biting at one foot like she had an itch.then she got up and fine.im trying to learn to watch her and look for changes.however i wdnt know what to do about what i observed - ie the chewing of foot - just an itch or a problem?? how can i tell the difference.?
3 promotion of good health.how do i know if i should do anything for the hoof,supplement her food etc.presume - if she looks well ,has good coat,eyes look clear.??
4 emotional well being- i wnat to promote emotional well being- what things do this for a horse- again is it generic things or spefic to each horse.She has to be stabled 24 every other day - is there anything i can do to make it less boring.??Why do they always want to come home froma hack- if they are flight animals it feels that im stressing her to take out on hack away from"saftey"- Icant believe it s crossed my mind to feel guilty about going on a hack. she has to be in every other day and turn out every other day.in my human mind i see the turn out as relaxing for a horse as well as physically beneficial.is this true.
Also my mare is out with amother mare- mine is submissive toher .the othr mare appropaches her with ears down and shows her back legs toher several times .i prsume this is normal pack behevoir - is this the case- i dont want to stress my mare.is it is normal then can i put them together in the small turn out area we use on non turn out days together or wd it stress my mare as the dominant mare still does this but my mare cant move too far away- wd it stress her to be in close proximity.the dominant mare has followed her round wih ears down but has not kicked.
I wd really appriciate advice or thoughts- i totally admit im on a learing curve but i do not want to cause any problems for my mare as i learn!! as i wd hate to harm her thro ignorance- but have to start somewere.Thankyou all so much for your support -and if i make it- sev years down the line, maybe i can retun the favour to others x
. ps am buying kelly marks perfect confidecne and perfect partners
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