Named changed for this as usual name is quite identifiable, and really don't want this linked in any way.
DH has been a teacher for over 20 years, and is proud of a very successful career so far.
To give the background as I feel it is important: 18 months or so ago, the school had a new head teacher. This created a lot of staffing changes, the SLT was restructured and DH appointed as deputy. The previous HT left a difficult position to fill, he was very well liked and had strongly led the school out of special measures to good with outstanding features. He was a very good manager as well; firm but very fair and supportive when needed.
The new HT is very, very different. She is showy, jazz hands, and connected in all the right places. Makes loads of mistakes that are laughed off by her, yet the pressure is carried by the SLT. Other people are absolutely hauled over the coals if they do anything slightly wrong. Everything about the school is presented as 'amazing', 'my school' and widely shared in an extravagant way to showcase 'her' school. She will not have the previous HT mentioned, purposefully pronounces his name incorrectly and generally seems to not want to acknowledge the extremely hard work of the previous HT / SLT that she has inherited. She is unpredictable and difficult to please. Chair of Govs thinks the sun shines out of her backside, mainly because the profile of the school is being raised locally by her ability to show off.
So, to DH (with apologies for the long winded intro). He is struggling, like I have never seen before. I can't say for certain if it is just the new role, the new HT or a combination of both. We've had a difficult couple of years with one of our DCs being seriously ill, having major surgery, and being in and out of hospital. DC is ok now, but we are still recovering from this.
DH is up to his eyeballs with work and is sinking. He has hit triggers for absence from being off with DC in hospital (wasn't local, we had to go to a specialist centre in another county) and a subsequent bicycle accident injury. He had a lesson observation last week which he failed - this is the first time ever in his career. He was observed by the HT. To give context, when he was observed by Ofsted they gave him an outstanding. He can do nothing right for the HT. He is having work piled on him, and with no-one to delegate to he has got a backlog. He's missed deadlines. The other SLT members are also struggling to get on with the new HT, the other deputy gets on with HT but is struggling with work load.
I hardly recognise the man who stands before me in the evening. I'm worried that he is going to end up having a breakdown
How can I support him, other than keeping everything running smoothly at home and listening?
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WorriedWifeOfSir · 02/02/2018 10:43
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