Hi. Anyone out there with advice regarding my darling boy..
Have been a cat owner for 54 years and never before had a problem like this. My gorgeous adored (neutered) boy has taken to disrupting the house at night .. especially me.
He will come to bed with me about 10/11pm settle down on the bed and go to sleep as good as gold. Gets to 3am and he starts hassling.. really really hassling. Trying to lick my skin (any bit that is not hidden inside the duvet .. so ears, face, .. whilst purring at 1k decibels in my ear.. I try to hide under the covers but he just continues.. trying to get a paw in wherever he sees a little gap.. this will go on for an hour by which time one of two things happen.
- I give in and give him some food.. he then leaves me alone and goes out or comes back to bed and goes to sleep beautifully by my feet.. (this is of course reinforces his disrupted behaviour) so rinse and repeat EVERY night. .. if I don't give in ...
- He goes into my daughters room and picks a fight with his much smaller angelic sister who sleeps soundly all night on the bottom shelf of daughters wardrobe..
I have spoken to the vets but their only suggestion is a timed feeder so he can eat in the middle of the night. This arrived today - but still seems wrong . He has more than adequate food. He is not fat, in fact according to vet at 5k perfect for his size.. and he is 6 .. had them both since kittens . Why has this started in last 3 months. ?
A bit of 'social background' in case relevant. We moved a year ago. We lived rurally but a really busy fast road at the front of the house. I chose somewhere very remote for their safety. We are in a farm, down a track, hundreds of a acres to roam. (Which he does) .. at the old house we lived with my husband. Sadly DH has some MH issues that are challenging- and whilst I can cope I decided it wasn't fair on DD whilst she was doing A levels. (Boy cat would never disturb DH and I when we lived in the same house. )
So I moved here and DH to a flat up the road. I leave my boy and visit DH 2/3 nights a week.. on the nights I'm not home - he just does the same to DD...
We adore them both but he is driving us crazy ... any ideas cat whisperers ?
Just to add.. he LOVES me.. slightly obsessed .. in fact. Very very cuddly. Also has full access to come and go through cat flap..