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Maudlinmaud Wed 18-Oct-17 11:14:43

Firstly I never really click on bad news threads, so if anyone does thank you.
My cat was run over and killed this am. She was left in my neighbours driveway and they very kindly alerted me. I saw her from a distance only. They wrapped her up and took her away. I'm very very sad and I'm worried about telling the dc.
These things happen and I'm told she wouldn't have suffered. But still it's just awful isn't it? I just wanted to write this down, I know that it will take a long time for these feelings to pass.
She was such a beautiful wee character and when I was ill she never left my side and brought me such comfort. I really feel like I've let her down. I'm trying to distract myself on other areas of mumsnet at the moment but it's hard.

SilverSpot Wed 18-Oct-17 11:19:26

Oh it is very sad :-(

Can you bury her in the garden and do a little memorial? Maybe all say something like your favorite memory of her?

UnbornMortificado Wed 18-Oct-17 11:20:00

I'm sorry Maud flowers

My mam lost one of hers in an accident a few month back, she blames herself but the vet said he would of been a miserable indoor cat and he had 12 years of happiness.

They break our hearts when they go.

Maudlinmaud Wed 18-Oct-17 11:28:20

Thank you Silver and Unborn I'm having a really good cry. My neighbour wouldn't let me see her and said she would take her to be burried, I believe her injuries where quite severe. But I think we will do a little memorial for her in the garden. My youngest will be bereft but this is the harsh reality of pet ownership sad
I have an older cat who is at the grand old age of 14 and sadly always expected him to go first. There is a busy road behind the house but we live on a lane where it is very quiet. Never thought they would come to any harm right outside my front door.
Ah dear.

AuntyElle Wed 18-Oct-17 11:28:44


Mustang27 Wed 18-Oct-17 11:46:41

Massive hug I’m so sorry for you flowers

ToothTrauma Wed 18-Oct-17 11:48:49

Oh darling I’m so sorry. It’s awful. Be very kind to yourself flowers

Maudlinmaud Wed 18-Oct-17 11:50:56

Elle Mustang Tooth many thanks to you all.

Cailleach1 Wed 18-Oct-17 12:16:26

The neighbour could have her wrapped up, but you could still bury her in the garden and plant something on the spot. Her little memorial and she would still be with you.

If you don't want to bury the body, you could get the ashes. My lovely mog had to be pts because he got cancer. We were so lucky when he wandered into our house and lives, right out of the blue, as he had us splitting our sides every single day. I got his ashes.

Before anyone says anything about another owner. We were living in the countryside with lots of farms around. He had no collar. I put one on and my number. Nobody called. Went vets, no chip. It was a bad frozen and snowy winter and he wouldn't leave the house.

Maudlinmaud Wed 18-Oct-17 12:48:39

I know Cailleach it all happened so quickly I should have insisted on taking her body over home but they didn't want me to and the left for work straight afterwards. This is something I'll live to regret sad
Dh thinks she was probably under the wheel arch of the neighbours car and that she wasn't hit by someone else. It's just an awful accident. I will tell the children I have burried her already and get a little memorial statue. We have a garden full of cat ornaments anyway.
I think dh's theory makes sense and is helping me a little in a very strange way.
I'm sorry about your cat, it's heart breaking. Mine was a rescue too, she was found on the road at 4 weeks old.

KittyLover91 Wed 18-Oct-17 12:51:12

I am so so sorry for you loss!

Can only imagine how youre feeling as I know just how devastated I would be myself flowers xxx

Mustang27 Wed 18-Oct-17 12:55:35

It did cross my mind that your neighbours may have been responsible but didn’t want to cast any negativity on the thread when you already feel awful enough. The chances are they won’t bury her until tonight can you watch for them returning and just nip over and ask them if they have done anything with her yet as you would really like to bury her in your garden or cremate. I’m sure they would understand and not hesitate.

Maudlinmaud Wed 18-Oct-17 13:03:57

I don't really know what to do for the best Mustang my neighbour is lovely and wanted to spare me the horror of the situation. She picked her up with her bare hands bless her, by the time I'd gone to get a little box and blanket, things had been dealt with sad I can't help my cat and having her body won't change anything.
Do you know what I mean?
I'm trying to talk myself round here.

Maudlinmaud Wed 18-Oct-17 13:06:45

kitty thank you lovely.

Mustang27 Wed 18-Oct-17 13:19:42

I understand completely.

It’s a hard one I don’t think having her will make a massive difference but only you will really know. I doubt asking them will put them out would you rather know that it wasn’t an option by the time your first reaction had cleared or just leave it always wondering if there had been other options?

Either way none of it will make this horrible situation go away. I’m still so sorry this has happened. Hugs again.

KittyLover91 Wed 18-Oct-17 16:42:45

Its a horrible thing to have to go through!

My furbaby was hit back in June after only being allowed out for 2 months and after that I refused to let him back out it just wasnt worth the stress and worry.

I think not seeing your baby was probably for the best I know you probably feel terribly guilty but remembering her how she was will be much easier for than if you were to see her now! xxx

ElfrideSwancourt Wed 18-Oct-17 17:09:44

I’m so sorry flowers
One of ours was run over about a month ago- I miss him every day.

Maudlinmaud Wed 18-Oct-17 19:30:50

Thank you all so much. Writing this earlier really helped me and I was able to comfort the dcs and do some work too.
My youngest dd was and is very upset but she had never experienced the loss of a pet and our cat slept on her bed at night and was very much her companion. Most evenings she would sit in the window waiting for her after school. She has been drawing pictures and wants a cuddly toy that looks like her. Lots of tears here this evening sad but it's just one of those really shitty unlucky things.

KittyLover91 Wed 18-Oct-17 22:52:14

Sending love and hugs your way @Maudlinmaud ❤️

Maybe you could get a canvas with her picture on and keep it where everyone can see? xXx

KittyLover91 Wed 18-Oct-17 22:53:04

Kitty is beautiful. What’s her name? xXx

Therewere5inthebed Thu 19-Oct-17 09:56:58

I’m so, so sorry. flowers

The same thing happened to us three weeks ago and it is such a shock and totally devastating.

I miss her terribly.

UnbornMortificado Thu 19-Oct-17 10:20:17

She's beautiful, bless your DD I think there is a site where you can get personalised toys to look like pets. Il see if I can find it.

Want2beme Thu 19-Oct-17 10:32:40

So sorry for the loss of your lovely puss Maudlinmaud. It's a very difficult time for you. We all know what you're going through. flowers

Maudlinmaud Thu 19-Oct-17 10:43:43

Ah folks you are all lovely. Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply, it was very kind of you.
Dd is very sweet and came out with something very mature last night about not taking things she loved for granted. It made me feel so sad, bless her. It's very hard but sure you all know yourselves, unfortunately.
It will get easier with time I'm sure but it does make you think about the down side of having animals, although I would never change it.

UnbornMortificado Thu 19-Oct-17 15:43:07

I've heard it said on here losing them is the price we pay for that kind of love they give.

Your DD sounds very wise.

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