We brought him home, worshipped at his (large) furry feet... and Obie basically lives at the neighbours' house :(
He is friends with their cat.. which is sweet, and they are really lovely people.. but I'm a bit sad that they are waking up in the morning with him on the end of their bed!!!! He basically comes home for food (they don't feed him although he does nick their crunchies) and a kip on the sofa and spends 80% of his day (or night apparently!) in their garden ...and in their house.
Today he appeared on my fb... one pic of him in their garden..another of him flat out on their bedroom floor!! They genuinely haven't tried to steal him, but he just prefers it there and it makes me sad :(
He has no reason to be unhappy here.. fed, loved, spoiled! His sister loves us and never goes out of the garden.
He's also been caught on another neighbour's bed 
and seems to feel he owns every house nearby!
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MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 10/08/2015 00:14
He's an absolute stunner! Very handsome. And I bet they are bloody feeding him.
I had something similar with my cat. An elderly lady appeared at the gate one day and asked if the cat belonged to me. The lady was worried as she was 'always in the garden begging to be let in and fed'. But she insisted that she didn't feed her. Would never do such a thing. She then pointed out that my cat absolutely loved Bernard Matthews Turkey Ham! And if I wanted to keep her at home I should buy some of that! I pointed out that this meant she was actually feeding her, then 
. And could she please stop it!
My cat is a complete tart though. I'll often go out and find her rolling around on the pavement with someone stroking her. She jumps through peoples windows, follows people around and often spends hours sat on a neighbours conservatory roof, tormenting their dog until he is senseless!
I'm a little bit 
at some of these responses......'Your cat's straying? Keep him in the house so he can't go to the place he clearly enjoys visiting, that'll solve the problem.'
One of our cats basically moved into our NDN's house in our old place - NDN was a lovely woman with a young son and they were renting so couldn't have a cat of their own. They LOVED our girl - she'd come home smelling of NDN's perfume. I was a bit sad about it but she was happy and NDN treated her like royalty. It was awful when we moved because NDN had to help us catch her on removal day. DH said he had to take our girl from NDN's arms as NDN struggled not to cry and that he's never felt like such a complete bastard. If we could have officially handed her over to NDN at that point, we would have.
Basically, it's hard but it's just in a cat's nature to roam about (some more than others). Try not to take it personally. He must like you at least a bit or he wouldn't come back, as pp said. In fact I'd be worried that if you did lock him in then he'd hate it, have bad memories tied up with your house and be more cautious about returning in future....
Ah well, it's just his personality then....he's spreading the love 
Excuse me, if I'm being out of turn here, but I saw on another thread that you weren't happy with your haircut or colour, do you just feel a bit unsettled, looking for change and a bit meh about things at the moment? Looking for little niggles and worrying about your cats might be a symptom of that.
He's just a cat who does his own thing. One of my boys is like that. His brother will pop back every half hour to check in but the other will stay out for hours. He's also best buds with the cat next door and eats his food (and gets diarrhoea-wonderful! 
) and they hang out in NDN garden a lot. I'm not sure what you can do other than ask them not to feed him. Maybe look on it that it's good thing they love him and look out for him. Better that than a neighbour who hates cats.
LOL Greenhill.. actually you might be right.. I'm a bit meh with life indeed; no good reason why really.. I'm on my school hols (broke and bored!), two of my kids have just graduated and are getting set up in new jobs ( we are in the process of getting them set up in new flats ..hence broke..ouch...) and I think I might just feel a bit left over.. girls barely need me and the cat barely wants me!
Possibly I need to give myself a good talking to 
!
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