When in 2011 I returned home to my mum's house after uni, we got a new kitten that someone else couldn't take care of. He instantly became my sidekick. Lets call him Totoro.
Unfortunately (?!) I pretty much immediately got into a long distance relationship, and travelled to another country every other month or so for a year. Then, in September 2012, I emigrated.
I've visited home seven times since then. This last time was the first time Totoro didn't even pretend to be unimpressed with me. He ran off because the dogs were barking, I presumed he'd gone outside to come back later - then I saw him hanging around, peeking behind the door from the conservatory, wanting to see me. I went to him and he was unbelievably affectionate. I cried like a baby (or a madwoman) while cuddling him for about ten minutes (tearing up now, actually).
He has a bit of an attachment to one of the dogs, or used to but doesn't seem that fussed now. He's never really bonded properly with any of the other four adults in the house, though he'll sit with my mum and have a cuddle sometimes if she happens to be somewhere he wants to chill out. He's not interested in any of the other cats, as far as I can tell (there are four others, currently).
So, my issue: we live in outrageously cheap rented accommodation that really is too small for a cat anyway but which a) doesn't allow pets and b) doesn't have any way for a cat to access a garden. I'm a student and we can't afford to buy a property right now. Moving out into obscenely expensive rented accommodation would be crazy. We could probably look into buying a flat (without garden access, but probably with enough room for a cat and interesting bits and pieces of shelves and trees etc for said cat) in, say, three years.
Issues:
How unpleasant would it be for him to move to indoor living? I'm not sure how much success we'd have with a harness for walks.
Is he likely to actually dreadfully miss the other people/dogs/cats, even though he seems to begrudge their presence now?
How traumatic would the actual journey be? As far as I understand it, you can take a cat in the cabin of a plane on the way out of the UK, but not on the way in, so it would be one way forever or we'd be finding a way over there by land and sea for a return journey. Which might be less traumatic than the hold of a plane, but that must be weighed up against the duration of the travel.
He'd be at least seven by then. Is that too old for such a dramatic change in living arrangements?
I honestly almost feel like I'd be unable to adopt a cat here if I knew he was back home without me. Am I being stupid and should I just accept that I'll see him twice a year or so for visits and move on with my life?
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SmillasSenseOfSnow · 05/08/2015 02:49
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