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Still missing my Ddog

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Cakietea Fri 22-Jun-18 15:10:22

I had my elderly dog put to sleep in April, mainly dementia but also she had repeated colitis which was distressing her, as soon as one bout ended another one seemed to start. She was blind and deaf and was quite often clearly distressed by her dementia. The decision to have her pts was the most difficult one ever, and I am still missing her dreadfully, at least once a week I can just start crying and thinking about her, at the most inconvenient moments. I am on holiday at the moment and today I just feel really upset at the thought of not seeing her when I get home, even though we are in a lovely place with fabulous weather, and doing lots of family things, I always seem to have an underlying sadness. I think I am the only one who misses her in the family as when she came to the her end she was difficult to look after and didn’t interact much, but I have years of good times to remember (she was 17 and had her since a pup).

Don’t know why I am writing this, I think because he people on here will understand how I feel.

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PilarTernera Fri 22-Jun-18 15:18:22

flowers Sorry for your loss

missbattenburg Fri 22-Jun-18 15:19:09

I think we do all understand.

April to June is not such a long time and so it's still early days for the grief. I could sit and cry now if I thought of dogs that went several years ago.

They form such a large part of our lives and we pour so much love and care into them that it seems inevitable they leave a huge hole when they go.

It sounds like she had a long life filled with good times and love and an owner who cared enough to do the right thing by her in the end. As always, whenever I hear of a dog that has managed this I think... "Three cheers for you, dog. There are humans that never manage to be loved and missed so much. I salute you, for you did life well!"

And so I raise a (virtual) glass to your ddog too... for all the love she gave and received wine. May we all be so lucky.

DuchessAnnogovia Fri 22-Jun-18 15:30:45

I do totally understand. Our pets leave their footprints on our hearts, and when we lose one it's awful.

Your dog had such a wonderful life with you, she was loved, and gave so much back to you. Remember the happy times you've had with her.

There is no timescale for grief, my DDog has been gone nearly 2 years, and I still miss her terribly. She was only 5 and had an accident where she did something to the bones in her back. The kindest decision was to pts, but even now I think what if I'd have got her to the Supervet. It does get easier, I promise you thanks

Cakietea Fri 22-Jun-18 16:20:04

Thank you, I do think she could still be here now albeit ill and at her usual doggy sitter ready to pick up for when we come home, but in reality she couldn’t have gone on, and was barely recognising us anyway. Every day a Facebook “on this day” featuring her over the years comes up, which I love to see but makes me miss her more. It really is the worst decision to make in the word.

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BiteyShark Fri 22-Jun-18 16:55:03

You did the very best for her at the end even though it hurt and still hurts. That's the last great thing we can give our much loved pets. And they aren't really pets, they are loved family members who are there for you no matter what completely unconditionally and bring joy to our life.

I agree with PP, April is no time at all and it's still very very raw. You just have to allow yourself to grieve and hopefully in time it won't be as painful and all that you will remember is the joyful times.

DownAndUnder Sun 24-Jun-18 01:17:26

flowers we do know how you feel and April is still recent and raw, it took me a very long time to get over my last dog dying. I think you did the right thing too x

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