Hi,
I have an 8 year old shar pei. I have had him from 8 weeks old and know him 'inside out' if you like. He has always been a pretty chilled out dog with the odd grumpy growl here and there but nothing serious. I could do anything with him. We have always kept him on a lead though as he is a powerful dog and never behaved well with other dogs.
However, I would say that since the birth of our daughter in 2013 he has gradually become pretty bad and we are now at the point where he is having to be kept separate to the family while our 16month old is awake for fear that he will turn on me or even worse her. (we keep him in the hall and kitchen and her in the living areas) This is naturally making him worse as he is becoming more isolated.
My husband is at home all day with him and while my daughter and i are out he makes a concentrated effort to exercise him and spend quality time with him. But he is clearly resentful of me in particular when we come home and he has to be kept away from our daughter.
Anyway, it has come to a point where he will no longer to respond to our requests such as going out into the garden or even coming back in. He becomes really aggressive and has even gone for me and my husband. It began with me but he has even begun to turn on him and we are living in fear.
He isn't a healthy dog really. Shar pei dogs come with all sorts of illnesses which they are prone too and he is at the vets frequently with his ears, skin, eyes and arthritis, Nothing life threatening. We keep on top of his health and always have so we know that this can make him miserable.
It is really starting to cause problems for us as a family, we are arguing and just feeling terribly guilty for having to segregate him but feeling like we have no choice. My husband wants to include him more but I won't have him around my daughter for long periods.
Our daughter loves him and while she is never ever left alone with him she shows an interest and it makes me sad they can't build a relationship. .
When you have a dog prior to starting a family you can obviously never anticipate how they will behave when a baby comes along but you just hope all will be well. Sadly in our case it is not and i am terrified that something terrible may happen. It is needless to say that his life has changed since we started our family and it is set to get worse as I am expecting baby number 2 in the summer.
I have been keeping it from family as they are quick to tell me I need to get rid (particularly the in laws who hate dogs anyway) but when you have raised them from a puppy its not an easy decision to make and I feel like I have let the dog down.
By writing this I am slowly acknowledging that it is a problem and I need to address it before the new baby arrives.
I have been intending to discuss it with my vet but i am scared he will suggest I have him put down if he knows how aggressive he has become.
So I was wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar and how they may have dealt with it.
I feel like rehoming an 8 year old aggressive dog who comes with monthly health problems (Costing a fortune) is going to be a challenge and I can not face the alternative.
Thanks for reading.
Lisa x
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plea4625 · 05/04/2015 15:43
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