and completely ignore any of dh's commands 
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Have begun to notice more and more how Eric only really takes me seriously. So he doesn't recall for dh even when he uses the same words and has a treat waiting. Embarrassingly in the park a woman whose dog Eric plays with had to be the one to call Eric back when dh had taken him out alone (he came back instantly to the woman)
This morning he'd found a lolly stick and dh wanted him to leave it again he completely ignored dh even with a treat to exchange. I walked downstairs called him to me told him to leave it and he dropped it at my feet.
How do we address this? I'd say that I have the attitude that I expect Eric to do as I ask whereas dh expects him not to and so I wonder whether Eric is just living up to expectations. Could it just be down to attitude?
I'd say dh treats Eric more than I do and for no discernible reason whereas I'm more of the attitude he needs to earn his treats.
I know it's dh that has to change but any suggestions as to how he needs to change please?
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Why does Eric only do as I tell him?
insanityscratching · 12/09/2014 09:09
Yes parenting is exactly like that. "Mummy's the boss" is something that has been quoted regularly here. It's most obvious with my dc who have autism as all requests by dh are met with a glance to me to see if I'm going to back him up (which I do consistently)
Eric's a poodle shih tzu cross, he looks like a shih tzu but I'd say his temperament is pure poodle
I feed Eric so I could get dh to do that, I feed him because dh would overfeed him on the grounds that he'd like a bit extra/some ham with it etc etc. Whereas according to the vet he is exactly the right weight for his size so he gets enough and I want to keep him like that.
It feels like Eric is my dog but dh is great fun and that's how he treats us.
I do think there's a degree of 'What Mum says goes, but Dad's a pushover.' but also think it's worth remembering how dogs learn.
If you're doing all the training, being consistent and proofing exercises in different locations/situations etc, Eric will have learned that whatever you say means the same thing whenever/wherever you are. On the other hand, if your dh has had a half-arsed go at training, is inconsistent and hasn't proofed cues/commands in every plausible situation, then Eric won't understand that your dh want's the same thing from him in every situation.
mrslaughan mine started being an adolescent over our summer holiday. He has always had a brilliant recall - is whistle trained and I used to get compliments all the time at his impressive halt and turn mid-flight to get back to me when I whistled him. Then, one day I whistled and I'd swear if he had fingers he'd have flicked a v-sign at me. 
Since then he's become hit-and-miss, so we're back to longlines and basic training. Not sure if he'd come back to dh. I doubt it though. I think he's forgotten who he is to be honest, as he's been working away so much recently that I can't remember the last time we walked them together.
Fingers crossed it's a short-lived teenage phase for both of us! 
(Apologies for the atrocious typos in my previous post by the way. 
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Mine or insanity's?...mine is rubbish, waffles randomly and then goes, aw, but look how sweet they look
Fortunately training the dog is easier than training DP.
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