DS1 is 14, he has a 9 year old brother and 5 year old sister. We have recently moved to Australia so I appreciate that everything is very new for him, but he makes no effort to even attempt a social life. He seems very happy at school and is doing better than he ever did in the UK. He clearly has friends at school, he even has a girlfriend at school but she's "not allowed to date until she's 15" so he spends a lot of time on MSN and texting her. Rugby season has just started here and he's really enjoying weekly training sessions and Sunday games and is happy that there are a few boys on his team who he knows. We've made friends with a few other ex-pat families, including a family with a boy the same age and they get on really well when they see each other. He really likes having this kid sleep over at ours, but declined the invite to stay at his house over Easter as he "didn't want to miss out on the chocolate at home"!
BUT, any time at the weekend I suggest he meets up with friends/goes to the cinema/beach etc. he declines and says that the kids at his school don't really do that. (The kids at school do live scattered all over the place but that's very normal here). If I make an arrangement to get together with the family of the kid he likes he's very happy, but if I suggest he makes an independent arrangement he just doesn't get round to it.
On the one hand I know I should be grateful that he is happy to spend time at home (and I am very grateful for the fact that he is more than happy to babysit - for money of course - his siblings any time we want to go out). Up until now I've been really chilled and thought that there is plenty of time for him to go out and about by himeself when he feels ready.Is he really odd though?????????
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Is my 14 year old DS odd for not wanting to go out more?
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sunnydelight · 31/03/2008 03:54
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