I don’t have children of my own, but I do have 2 step children.
The oldest (a girl) is almost 15.
Can I get some advice on if this is normal teenage behaviour - I was bought to to be very independent from a young age and was quite mature for my age so I don’t know if this is normal behaviour, so would appreciate your thoughts from those with kids this age.
• She doesn’t get dressed unless you tell her to
• Has only just started to remember to brush her own teeth
• Won’t shower unless you tell her to. And even then, unless you tell her to wash her hair when she’s in there she’ll ‘forget’
• Very routine driven and to a degree risk adverse
• Can’t hold any sort of conversation with adults. Only yes, no, don’t know answers. Never asks any questions herself or engages in conversation
• Wears the same clothes everyday. I’ve just spotted she’s had the same top on for 5 days
• Has a wardrobe full of lovely new clothes (that she chose) but wears the same scruffy top & leggings everyday.
• Can’t do any basic jobs around the house. To be fair, she does nothing at mums. Even a simple task like stripping her bed (which she’s been shown many times) can’t be done without reminding her what to do
• Absolutely no eye contact when chatting to me, her dad, anyone but her brother. Just looks down and plays with her fingers while giving yes, no, don’t know answers.
The list could go on.....
I’m really concerned for her that there could be more going on.
Her dad has asked if there’s anything going on at school - she says no.
She does have a very domineering and controlling mother. And I do worry about her self esteem. But could there be more to this? Or am I worrying unnecessarily?
Thanks, appreciate any advice.
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What’s normal for an almost 15 YO
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NorthernSpirit · 31/05/2020 14:26
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