15 year old son a nightmare!

[Lilyanna26]

My 15 year old son is really testing the boundaries and is extremely defiant. He is in year 10 at school and just recently moved schools. This was due to him moaning and complaining he hated the last school since starting in year 7 and that he wanted to change schools. He was constantly messing about and being removed from lessons. It got to the point he was in isolation more than lessons! In the end we though enough was enough and the only way to break the cycle was to put him in a new environment. We got him a place in another local school which happens to be in the top 3% in England. it started off well but guess what he hates this school. He makes mine and his dads life hell. Refusing to get up, constantly going about wanting to go back to his old school because he wants to be with his friends. Moping around wanting and at times getting very aggressive slamming and breaking doors. he is now at a stage it is acceptable to tell his dad to F OFF if he doesn't like something he is telling him to do. His response to everything naturally seems to be an instant negative or defiant response. He is now 6ft tall and a big lad and it's worrying what he will do next. When he is in a good mood ( clearly when only around his friends!) He can be the most loving kid. Wanting hugs and saying I love you. But boy when things don't go his way we all know about it! Any advice please

[rhubarbcrumbles]

When he is in a good mood can you sit down with him and explain that you want to have a talk together to try and work out what he is feeling when it's like that, not in a way of telling him off but working together to help him?